Are you caught up in thoughts like “I should do this,” or “I wish I could/would, but…” or “I am too old for that”? 

Yeah, we’ve been there too.

Lately, I (Rebecca) noticed that my flexibility and balance were “challenged,” to say the least. My hamstrings were as tight as ever, and bending forward had become more challenging. I was also really wobbly standing on one leg. 

In my mind, I kept telling myself I should get back to yoga. Eventually, I started voicing these thoughts to a friend who invited me to join her at a yoga class. For months, I kept making excuses like “I should do that, but I am too busy this week,” or “I can’t because of x, y, and z.” Sound familiar?

Well, my friend finally called me out on it! She said, “You talk about the importance of mindset as we age, but you’re just making excuses instead of taking action.”

She was right. Not only was my mindset holding me back, but I was also burdened by limiting beliefs such as, “I am not flexible enough right now,” “I should practice more before joining a class,” or the worst one, “I’ll be the oldest one in the room.” 

I stepped back and revisited my vision of how I want to live as I age. My actions were entirely out of sync with that vision. In fact, they were sabotaging my desire to feel and move well in my 70s, 80s, and beyond.

When our actions don’t align with our vision, we start feeling an inner restlessness or rumbling. In my case, it started in my head, and then I started vocalizing it. Unfortunately, I wasn’t listening to myself. And, because I hadn’t acknowledged and confronted those limiting beliefs, I was stuck in a cycle of inaction. 

How would I improve my flexibility and balance if I wasn’t taking action? 

Can you relate? We all want to change something about ourselves — eat better, get stronger, sleep more, reduce our stress — but often, we struggle to get started, let alone maintain those changes. 

So, how do you shift your mindset for lasting change?

Here are some steps to help you get started:

1. Listen for those inner rumblings. What is your inner voice saying? Take some time to be quiet with yourself. Try meditation, walk in nature, or grab a notebook to journal. 

2. Reflect on any “I should” or “I wish I could” statements you catch yourself making without taking action. Write them down. 

3. Ask a trusted friend or family member to help you identify these rumblings. Maybe, like me, you already have a friend who is good at calling you out! Listen to their observations.

4. Now, think about any limiting beliefs connected to these rumblings that may be holding you back. These often come as “not enough” statements or comparisons to your younger self or others. Write those down, too.  

5. Dive deeper into these limiting beliefs. Challenge them. For example, if you think I’ll be the oldest in the room,” ask yourself, “How do I know this? Is this thought based on reality? Why does my age matter?” 

6. Finally, jot down action steps you can take to address your inner rumblings. 

In my case, I signed up for a class at a new and nearby yoga studio. To address my limiting beliefs, I started slowly with a gentle class I knew I could handle. Once I got comfortable, I signed up for more challenging classes. And, you know what? I wasn’t the oldest or least flexible in the room. Everyone was there to work on their goals, regardless of where they started. No judgment, no critiques. I realized my limiting beliefs were mental barriers I created and were not based on reality.

How many opportunities do we miss because of self-imposed beliefs?

What was I missing out on? An incredible community of women of all ages who care about their minds and bodies through yoga. I was also not reaching my desired goals of improved flexibility and balance. I knew I had to take action, and I’m glad I did. 

Where are you stuck? 

Try the above activities to uncover how your mindset may hold you back. Don’t wait. 

I can’t wait to go to my next yoga class. I started feeling better and reaping benefits right away. Looking back, I realize what I would’ve missed out on if I stayed stuck any longer. 

Don’t miss out on the benefits of aging well. 

We’re here to help! 

Explore Rumblings resources to set a vision and break free from limiting beliefs:

The Rumblings Notebook is a beautiful tool to help you reflect and record your thoughts. 

The 90-Day Vision Journal will guide you through setting your vision, tackling limiting beliefs, and taking steps to make your dreams a reality. Live the life you’ve always wanted!