There are many thoughts to explore in a recap of our recent women’s trip to Vietnam. There are many things to choose from, including the fantastic food, the hospitality of the people, the culture of Vietnam, the benefits of traveling with women, and the differences in women's lives in a more restrictive society.

 It’s tough to choose just one aspect to focus on when recounting our two-week trip. From facing our deepest fears head-on to forming heartfelt connections that transcended language barriers, we discovered the true power of travel. 

 Here are the valuable insights we gained about ourselves and the world around us as we traveled across this fascinating nation in our first Rumblings Midlife Women’s trip to Vietnam. 

Embracing Courage: Conquering Fears Together

 Embarking on our women’s trip to Vietnam, 10 of us set forth with diverse expectations and our own self-defined personal boundaries.  We can look back and laugh at this now, but some of us were hesitant about trying unfamiliar foods, while others had reservations about hopping on motorbikes or holding snakes (yep, you read that right!) But you know what? By the end of the trip, we had each shattered some, if not all, of our self-imposed limits one by one, surprising even ourselves. 

We became masters of embracing change, diving headfirst into new experiences, and cheering each other on like a group of fearless daredevils. The phrase “I’ll try if you try it first” became our motto, and let us be clear, it was uttered more times than we can count! 

We felt a rush when we conquered our fears together. It ignited a spark, making us braver and more eager to explore the unknown. We realized that the things we feared were often not scary. Crossing a street without traffic signs and amidst hundreds of motorbikes? Piece of cake!

Imagine a group of midlife women, each with her unique background and perspective, coming together to face their fears head-on. It was an incredible display of collective courage and support. We found strength in unity, and it made all the difference. 

We discovered that embracing change and conquering our fears wasn’t just a personal triumph — it was an empowering journey that brought us closer as friends and transformed us in ways we never expected. Stepping outside our comfort zones became addictive, and we couldn’t wait to tackle the next unfamiliar challenge. 

 In a country as vibrant and captivating as Vietnam, we realize that genuine growth comes when we dare to step beyond what's familiar. Our journey was about more than just visiting popular tourist spots; it was about embracing the rich culture and immersing ourselves in the beauty of the unknown.

We formed an unbreakable bond, supporting and encouraging each other every step of the way. We learned to trust ourselves and each other, and that trust became the foundation for our incredible adventures.

Heartfelt Connections: Beyond Language Barriers

Here's the thing about Vietnam: it's not just the breathtaking landscapes and delicious food that will leave you in awe—it's the people. During our trip, we were lucky enough to witness the genuine hospitality and open-heartedness of the Vietnamese people, and let me tell you - it touched our souls in ways we never expected.

Now, how did we connect with locals when there was a language barrier? Well, that's the beauty of heartfelt connections—they transcend words. The shared smiles, the warmth in their eyes, and the gestures of kindness spoke volumes.

We met incredible individuals along our journey, like Ms. Dinh, a gracious woman who opened her home to us, sharing a meal, her life experiences, and stories. We bonded with motorbike drivers who proudly shared their family histories and tales of village life. Even young children and teenagers welcomed us with open arms, excited to connect with us, capture moments, and share them on their social media platforms. Kids really are the same everywhere, aren't they?

But one of the most unexpected connections came from a simple encounter with a seamstress. As she took our measurements for custom silk pajamas, we discovered a shared experience. Our mothers were seamstresses, and despite the continents separating us, we realized how similar our lives and memories were. It was a profound moment of connection that transcended language and cultural barriers.

Forgiveness and Kindness: Unveiling the Boundless Humanity in Vietnam

What struck us the most was the concept of Ubuntu—the belief that humanity is bound together through hospitality, generosity, and compassion. 

Despite coming from different backgrounds, the Vietnamese people exemplified these qualities in their interactions with us and each other. Whether we needed an interpreter or relied on gestures and smiles, the locals opened their hearts to us. They welcomed us into their world, allowing us to see Vietnam through their eyes. From Hanoi to Ho Chi Minh (or Saigon, as it's lovingly called), we witnessed the beauty of a culture that values human connection above all else.

It's worth mentioning that Vietnamese drivers honk their horns not out of anger but to create awareness. It's a small detail that speaks volumes about their helpful nature and willingness to assist one another. We even witnessed a traffic accident, and the way everyone came together to help the motorbike rider was truly inspiring. It's these moments of kindness and solidarity that remind us of the power of humanity.

Exploring Vietnam’s Hidden Gems: Unforgettable Off-The-Beaten-Path Adventures

Now, let's talk about the best-kept secrets of our trip—the experiences that took us off the beaten path and allowed us to discover the true essence of Vietnam. 

These hidden gems were the highlights of our adventure, giving us a taste of local life and immersing us in the heart and soul of the country.

Picture yourself sitting in a local coffee shop, sipping traditional coffee with condensed milk over ice, a concoction known as Cà Phê Sữa Đá. The locals would happily show you the ropes, ensuring you experience this caffeinated delight to the fullest.

Or imagine strolling through a countryside road and stumbling upon a wayside rest, complete with hammocks, cold beer, and locally grown nuts and fruits. 

We couldn't resist picking fresh herbs and indulging in juicy mangoes and passion fruit.

We also had the privilege of exploring a food market with a local chef, indulging in delicious tofu that melted in our mouths—a far cry from what we usually find back home.

But one of our most cherished memories was sharing a heartfelt meal in a village, prepared with love and enjoyed by a local family. It was a true embodiment of the Vietnamese spirit of togetherness and community.

Nurturing Bonds and Culinary Delights: Building Community Through Food in Vietnam

The food in Vietnam was a culinary adventure like no other. We started with some hesitation, unsure of what to expect, but as the trip progressed, we became increasingly brave in our gastronomic explorations. We tried dishes we had never even dreamed of before, and it was a journey of flavors and tastes that delighted our senses.

Vietnam is a paradise for food lovers. The variety of fruits, vegetables, spices, and local delicacies is mind-boggling. Everything is incredibly fresh, sourced locally, and prepared with love. We savored each bite and marveled at the creativity and inventiveness of Vietnamese cuisine.

As we returned to our standard Western fare after the trip, we felt a culture shock and a longing for the vibrant flavors we had grown accustomed to. We yearned for another bowl of Pho or a refreshing Saigon beer from a local market or food stand.

Sharing family-style meals became a highlight of our trip because of the incredible food and the memories and connections we forged over those communal dining experiences. We learned to eat like locals, embracing the chopsticks and savoring each dish with delight. And each meal was accompanied by sharing our daily highlights (our 'roses'), what we were looking forward to (our 'buds'), and even our least favorite moments of the day (our 'thorns'). And let's not forget the lively toasts we raised to neighboring tables, with an enthusiastic "Một – Hai – Ba – dzô!" which means one, two, three, drink! We quickly became proficient in this Vietnamese tradition.

Empowering Women: Unveiling Shared Challenges Across Borders

Throughout our journey, we couldn't help but notice the strength and resilience of women in Vietnam. It became an ongoing joke that we predominantly saw women working, running shops, cooking, and managing stands in local markets. It was a partial joke but highlighted women's evolving roles and responsibilities in Vietnamese society.

Despite traditional norms, we met women breaking boundaries and going against the grain. We encountered inspiring stories like that of Ms. Minh, who held a job outside her husband's family home and became a successful businesswoman, defying societal expectations. We witnessed the increasing presence of women in careers and the shifting dynamics within households, where couples shared household duties and lived together before marriage.

In Vietnam, we discovered that women face many of the same challenges regardless of their cultural background. It reminded us that we are all connected, navigating similar paths and striving for empowerment uniquely.

Embark on Your Vietnam Adventure: Now is the Perfect Time 

Our trip to Vietnam was nothing short of life-altering. Some of us had waited for decades to embark on this adventure of a lifetime. 

Vietnam became more than just a destination—it felt like home to many of us, with an unspoken thread connecting us to the country and its people.

There was a sense of shared memories, whether through our own experiences or the stories passed down from family members. For Americans, it was intertwined with the memories of foster siblings, refugee friends, and their descendants who still have ties to Vietnam, and an uncle and a father.  Our humanity became intricately entwined with theirs, reminding us of our interconnectedness as human beings.

If there's one piece of advice we can give you, it's this: embrace the opportunity to travel to Vietnam, immerse yourself in the local culture, and forge connections that will stay with you for a lifetime. 

The transformative power of travel is real, and Vietnam has a way of leaving an indelible mark on your heart and soul. So pack your bags, open your mind, and prepare for an adventure that will expand your horizons and leave you with cherished memories and a newfound appreciation for the beauty of human connection.

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