Why Physical Activity is Important as We Age.

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Expert or Quack? Recognizing the real health, nutrition, exercise, and wellness experts

There is a proliferation of ‘experts’ on social media who claim to have a magic or singular approach for dieting, weight loss, quick fitness gains, and overall health. It’s challenging to tell the difference between an expert and someone only interested in selling something. How do you know what works and what is just the latest fad?

Here are tips to help you weed out the “wellness” imposters from your social media feed.

There is a proliferation of ‘experts’ on social media who claim to have a magic or singular approach for dieting, weight loss, quick fitness gains, and overall health. It’s challenging to tell the difference between an expert and someone only interested in selling something. How do you know what works and what is just the latest fad?

Everyone loves the idea of a fast solution for losing weight and getting healthy. Unfortunately, there is no magic pill, and the promise of a quick fix can be the very thing that prevents you from achieving your long-term health goals. Even if you are cautious, it isn’t easy to differentiate the true experts from someone trying to sell you a product or quick-fix solution that doesn’t work and can even be dangerous for your health.

Below are tips to help you weed out the “wellness” imposters from your social media feed.

Do their credentials align with the subject? Many high-profile, highly credentialed individuals give health advice beyond their training. Just because you eat and move your body does not make you an expert on nutrition and exercise.

Anyone can share their personal story of what has worked for them, but they cannot and should not be prescribing the same approach as the answer for everyone. And they should not be counseling others without proper education to customize personalized approaches for each individual.

For example, personal trainers can talk about healthier foods and the importance of eating a healthy and balanced diet. Yet, in Minnesota (and many other states), personal trainers cannot give you a nutrition plan. That is outside their credentials or educational background. They absolutely should not be selling or recommending specific micronutrients and supplements.

Is there evidence of practice scope creep? Do your research to understand the credentials individuals have and determine what their scope of practice is with that credential. For example, a health coach is an individual who has typically received a coaching certificate for completing ~32 to ~75 hours of training. That is equivalent to less than one to two college courses. A health coach is trained to take you through a process of asking questions and helping you determine what you should do next to change or move towards your goals. They are NOT educated to give you specific or personalized health advice with only a coaching certificate without additional education. Sometimes degreed professionals also have coaching certificates to expand their scope of practice.

Another example is someone promoting themselves as a ‘Dr.’, but their degree is in another field, such as a doctor of chiropractic degree or a Ph.D. in philosophy. That degree alone may not give them the expertise to give dietary or weight loss plans, prescribe supplements, or exercise programs outside of treating the injury.

Do they showcase scientific literacy? If they speak in absolutes, probably not.

As new research comes out, science is constantly evolving, and so should recommendations. Experts in their field will describe the nuances that come with any recommendation.

For example, a registered dietitian nutritionist will never speak in absolutes about one diet being the only diet for weight loss. Nutrition and exercise programs should be personalized to an individual’s health history, activity level, and goals.

Remember, it’s easy for someone to cherry-pick scientific articles and quickly cite references or research that substantiates their recommendations. Experts consider the totality of the research. True experts will evolve their thinking on a particular topic as the research progresses.

Are their recommendations black and white? Absolute statements should be a red flag. If we’ve learned anything over the years, people are individuals, and their health needs are individualized. Experts provide nuanced recommendations and caveats based on individual situations and goals, not absolutes generalized to everyone. They are most likely to use caveats such as ‘it depends,’ ‘in some situations,’ and ‘for these circumstances’ rather than words like ‘must’ and ‘should.’

Your background, culture, traditions, desires, likes, and dislikes should play into any recommendations. No expert will tell you that you should eliminate certain foods or that only specific exercises done in a certain way or frequency will improve your health.

Do their statements recognize individual differences? Take note if anyone is trying to give recommendations without knowing your health history, habits, and personal goals. This black-and-white thinking gets followers—vegan versus the carnivores, powerlifting versus functional training—but it confuses everyone and serves no one. And, if you are older and have chronic conditions or other health issues, it can be dangerous.

Do they have established real-world experience? When you work with people, you learn a lot about how to help people change their behavior to improve their health in realistic ways and without injury. Sometimes what is happening in the real world is ahead of science.

Seasoned health practitioners with an evidenced-based practice will always incorporate their hands-on experience, the weight of peer-reviewed literature, and the needs of the individual, along with client/patient preferences, in their recommendations.

Will they profit from their recommendation? Experts are often spokespeople for products. They can say they only work with companies they trust and use their products personally. That is probably true, but consumers are savvy. These relationships create distrust. We’re not saying that this alone should make you question credibility, but pay attention to it.

Assess whether someone is science-based. Look at the information they are presenting and their credentials.

Is it more anecdotal promising a quick fix, or is it based on recent media hype?

You can learn from others' experiences, but they may not be the right people to advise you.

Science follows a hierarchy. Anecdotes, observational studies, randomized controlled trials (RCTs), systematic reviews, and meta-analyses of RCTs. Science-based experts look at the entire body of literature before making recommendations for an individual. Major organizations, like the American Heart Association, create position stands by weighing all the evidence. When you understand the research, you realize recommendations need to be tailored to the individual.

Lastly, true experts in a specific field will readily display their education and certification credentials, discuss their specialties and experience, and help with referrals to an expert in areas where they’re not qualified.

It can be challenging to distill an expert from a good marketer. Take your time, review their recommendations, listen to your gut, and use these tips to help you decide if their advice is right for you.

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The Key to Getting Fit After 50

What exactly is the difference between being physically active and exercising? Which is better for us for a sustainable lifestyle approach as we age?

Most of us have been told over the years that we need to participate in structured fitness programs - mainly cardiovascular or aerobic. For many, that means attending a class, getting on a cardio machine, running, or biking.

The truth is, physical activity and fitness aren’t all-or-nothing propositions. And doing one doesn’t negate the benefit of the other. The real trick is to find ways to incorporate physical activity throughout our day, every day, with or without a regular exercise routine.

“Fitness is a journey, not a destination. It must be continued for the rest of your life.” Kenneth Cooper, MD, started the aerobics movement with his book Aerobics in 1968.

As an exercise scientist with a background in health, conversations with family and friends often center around fitness and physical activity.

This year has been especially challenging as most of the women we speak with have been sharing they were more sedentary and exercised less than they had previously.

Combine this with the changes and effects of aging, and the body and fitness level changes have been dramatic.

As one family member shared, looking in the mirror is shocking enough to wonder, whose body is this?!

It’s tempting to jump on the bandwagon of quick-fix diets and exercise plans. But we’re over that! Right, friends?

Just as you may have started and failed a myriad of diets or eating fads, you may have an on-off-again relationship with exercise and physical activity. Any promise for a quick fix is exactly that - fast and unstainable. Thankfully that’s in the past!

And, unfortunately, the focus for exercising is commonly based on improving physical appearance, yet the more important benefits of exercising and being physically active come from the inside out. We need to have a long-term focus on living a healthy lifestyle.

But, what exactly is the difference between being physically active and exercising? Which is better for us for a sustainable lifestyle approach as we age?

Most of us have been told over the years that we need to participate in structured fitness programs - mainly cardiovascular or aerobic. For many, that means attending a class, getting on a cardio machine, running, or biking. Read our last blog post on how much exercise is optimal for health.

The truth is, physical activity and fitness aren’t all-or-nothing propositions. And doing one doesn’t negate the benefit of the other. The real trick is to find ways to incorporate physical activity throughout our day, every day, with or without a regular exercise routine.

Crushing it on the elliptical machine for 30 minutes, four times a week, only to spend the rest of your day sitting at a desk and moving to the sofa in the evening minimizes the health impact of your hard cardio workout.

We’ve found that many women—whether they exercise or not—are short on meeting recommendations for physical activity. Research shows that half of all women decrease regular exercise during middle age. At the same time, women lose lean muscle mass as they age.

A key to leading a more active life and being consistent in creating a sustainable movement-oriented lifestyle throughout our lives is having a foundational base of movement incorporated through everything we do.

The great news is it’s never too late to feel great, have more energy, and get significant health benefits from increasing both exercise and physical activity. It doesn’t take much to get results.

All activity is beneficial, and the health and well-being benefits are additive. It’s like getting extra credit for having fun!

Likewise, suppose you’ve been primarily sedentary. The good news is it’s never too late to begin being active. A great place to start is to incorporate more physical activity into your day. As you become a physically active person, you can add structured exercise activities that are higher in intensity and provide more cardiovascular fitness benefits.

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Discover 5 New Techniques to Improve Your Mind-Body Connection to Live Well After 50

For many of us, reaching 50 was the moment we asked if there was more to life or wondered if we had a purpose beyond family and work. It's not that we don't love our children, careers, or our families. We have a rumbling that there might be more for us individually in the next half of life. We can use practical tips, tools, and techniques to rethink our rhythm for living well after 50 and managing messy, midlife transitions.

As we’ve aged, advertising and marketing messages told women we could have it all. Unfortunately, as a result, we felt we needed to do it all.

Instead of empowering women, our society normalized simultaneously working tirelessly, raising kids, taking care of parents, juggling family schedules, keeping up the home perfectly, and being superwoman 24/7.

For many of us, reaching 50 was the moment we asked if there was more to life, if we needed time for ourselves, or wondered if we had a purpose beyond family and work. It's not that we don't love our children, careers, or our families. We have a rumbling that there might be more for us individually in the next half of life.

However, as women have more power than ever, we have found ourselves powerless to manage some of the messy transitions that brought us to midlife.

Transitions are different for each of us. We can all relate to significant milestones at this stage in our lives - kids leaving home, aging parents, job transitions, or divorce. The reality is that messy midlife transitions are a part of all of our lives.

You’re not alone. We can use practical tips, tools, and techniques to rethink our rhythm for living well after 50 to understand better how to decouple our experiences, patterns, and beliefs from our approach to handling life stressors and tumultuous times.

A group of Rumblings women came together virtually with Shelly Melroe, MS, AS, LMFT, owner of Rhythm for Living Therapy & Counseling, to learn how to resync our mind-body connections. We discussed finding compassion for our unbreakable habits, negative self-talk, and limiting beliefs we bring into midlife that may be preventing a healthy mind-body connection and authentic journey into midlife.

We all have patterns and habits for reacting and dealing with difficult or uncomfortable situations. We may not realize that those patterns and habits stem from our beliefs about ourselves that we deeply imprinted from our life experiences. Some of these experiences can date back to when we were infants and impact how we assess a situation or interpersonal exchange and how safe we feel as adults.

Most often, these patterns come out as automatic physical responses when we encounter an uncomfortable situation. That body sensation could be a dry tight throat, heart palpitations, a voice that cracks or raises, cold hands, a need to fidget, or even flushing of the neck or face. These emotions or feelings may build-up for some women until they eventually spill over in a fight or flight response. Others may completely shut down in an attempt to remove themselves from the situation, and it may lead eventually to an outburst.

We've all experienced these body sensations, but what we may not know is we can recognize these body responses and use the energy differently, in a healthier way. Recognition will help us break the cycle and stop impulsively and unconsciously repeating the same patterns shaped by our beliefs and life experiences.

Our beliefs aren't something we consciously choose.

Beliefs evolve from our upbringing and how people interacted with us. They are part of human development. We learn through our interactions with others. Our beliefs shape how we perceive our relative importance compared to others. We realized what was safe and what was most honest in the world.

We rarely think of our beliefs, even when they impact our daily lives through negative self-talk. Talk that may include thoughts like, 'I can't go back to school.’ 'I'm not fit enough, or 'my skin isn't smooth enough. 'I don't deserve to go on that trip.’ 'I don't deserve that new sweater.’ These beliefs about who we are, especially those put on us by others, are insidious and subtle and the most damaging. They come out as second nature, with little thoughts creeping in the back of our minds as we go about our day – even when we believe ourselves to be very confident. And each time we repeat this pattern of negative self-talk, it further ingrains our beliefs and habits within us and adds layers on top of our emotions.

That voice inside our head seems to get louder and louder as we get older, along with a fear that we're admitting we need help or are not satisfied if we bring it up. Instead, we may need to recognize that perhaps we can't do it, don't have it all together, or are exhausted after all these years of appearing to juggle everything effortlessly. And, that’s ok. These are the fundamental and often real messy life experiences.

What can we do about the negative self-talk? Can we change it? Can we do something differently? Are we getting in our own way?

There are many approaches to working with and modifying our beliefs to align with how we want to react, learn, and grow during our life transitions, who we want to be in midlife, and what we want to accomplish in our prime time.

Once we recognize these limiting beliefs, we can name the emotions behind them and begin to tame and reframe them into a reaction that helps us achieve a more positive outcome. It requires going deep within ourselves to get in touch with the emotions we experience. Next, recognize what caused the emotion. By understanding where that emotion originated, we can try to reframe it.

It begins with hanging onto your thought and remembering, whatever you are experiencing or whatever your self-judgment, maybe it got there naturally and honestly from your life experiences. Thoughts can stem from wounds dating back to childhood. You may have developed protective mechanisms in situations to help you feel safe. You do have the ability to heal these old wounds. The desired outcome is to resync your emotions with your thinking and with your body and integrate them.

Resyncing emotions allows us to reframe our beliefs, patterns, and habits. We can find the space to be secure in managing messy transitions in a way that opens up possibilities to grow, learn, and take advantage of opportunities that come our way in our personal and professional lives. Midlife gives us a chance to reimagine and reignite who we are and what we want from this life. Each of us has a story, and it may shape us, but we can separate ourselves and our sense of who we are from it. Our stories and our history do not define us.

Below are some of the skills that we can work on to help us navigate a new way of harnessing the power of a healthy mind/body connection. Start with small changes to find an untapped spaciousness to open our emotional circuits and walk into the authentic power within each of us.

Recognize your emotions: Learn how to reconnect with your body and accept your current habits and beliefs by examining your emotions. Be aware of the feeling. What are the physical clues you have happening in your body and your sensations? What are you aware of or thinking? What state are you in during the moment? When you begin to recognize these emotions, you can start to engage with yourself. You can also begin to connect with others very naturally. Become more open. You can start this by journaling your emotions and patterned responses and the energy you noticed as you became aware of that pattern.
Name your emotions: Get up close and personal with your current rhythm - learn how to go into an empowered and healthy emotional state more naturally. Learn to name the emotions you're feeling. Try to connect to the emotional side of yourself. Begin to name those emotions as you're experiencing them or when you're holding them back. Be graceful with yourself and acknowledge that there is no benefit to judgment. You're experiencing that emotional state because it's something important to you.
Experience your emotions: Feel the rhythm with your emotions. Bring awareness to your emotions and thoughts so that you can change the limiting beliefs and habits that may be holding you back. Learn to tame the emotions by allowing yourself to experience them. Begin to understand if you tend to go into a hyperarousal state or if you tend to shut down in uncomfortable situations. What are the thoughts (beliefs), movements (habits), body sensations, and emotions you feel? Do you take a position of blaming others, or do you feel sadness, shame, helplessness, anger, disappointment, frustration, or vulnerability?
Eventually, you'll be able to harness that energy more positively if you can avoid the natural fight or flight tendency (e.g., avoiding what you’re feeling). Start with a PAUSE where you allow yourself to sit with or even step into the emotions. Doing this is difficult, but it gives you space to move away from autopilot so you can change your existing beliefs and habits by integrating the information you're receiving into your thinking and decision-making.

Reframe your response aligned with your values. By sitting with your emotions, you’ll experience an inner fire on the other side. By learning to tap into this empowered state, you’ll experience courage, compassion, and clarity with your emotions as your energy source. New energy allows you to reframe your response because you created space for yourself. When you are predominantly in your empowerment state, courage, compassion, and clarity will come naturally. Your emotions become the guide for your passions, desires, and values. You can begin to tap into this empowered state with a meditation or mindfulness practice that includes a body and emotion scan. It means we don't fight, flee, or shut down but show up to the experience in different ways. We can be more curious if that reflects who we are or if we get pulled into it because of our story. It becomes a place to start connecting emotionally to examine the type of energy that occurs when you recognize you could feel safe in the rhythm of the situation.

Enjoy a new rhythm for living. By having an integrated daily rhythm, you create a complete integration with your mind and body. You have a new daily rhythm for living that is more aware, with different behaviors, positive thoughts, and more integrated. You begin to accept current habits and beliefs and even start to use them to tap into an empowered state of courage, compassion, and clarity with your emotions as your energy source. When you’re intentional with your feelings, rather than acting out of impulse, you create a more natural, healthy, and connected state for yourself. You can have harmony in your differences with others and even use those differences for growth.

Coming into midlife is our chance to learn and consciously decide where we want to go next in our lives, how we want to grow, and how we show up for ourselves and those who matter most to us. Midlife is an opportunity to embrace our inner selves, become more integrated, and live well.

Let’s take advantage of our capacity to move through messy midlife transitions, let go of old ways of being, and reignite our journey to flourish after 50.

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5 Ways to Uncover and Challenge Unconscious Biases Today

By uncovering your unconscious biases, you can reshape your perspectives, decisions, and behaviors. Adopting a learning mindset toward yourself and your personal biases is a start to making more conscious decisions, altering your thought patterns, and resetting your mindset for flourishing after 50.

Several years ago I chaperoned my son’s soccer team at a college showcase tournament. Since this was a high-level team, we traveled to the out-of-town tournament by air. The team was made up of 18 young men from Minneapolis and surrounding suburbs, all within the same 12-month age span, and all with a passion for the game of soccer.

On our trip home, we successfully received our boarding passes, and the 18 players and two mom chaperones headed to security. When we arrived, we realized that some of us had been assigned to skip the long security line and go through the TSA PreCheck line.

One by one we looked at our ticket and chose which line to go to — left regular or right PreCheck. Suddenly I heard my son scream, “MOM!” And, with horror in his eyes, he yelled, “Look at how they segmented us.” Slowly, I looked up and saw the players of color on the left side of the rope and the white players, and two white moms on the right. I too was horrified. I couldn’t believe what I was seeing. My heart started racing, as I shared my surprise and frustration with the other mom.

The PreCheck line was shorter, so I maneuvered in front of the few white players from the team and leaped towards the security checkpoint. I found myself standing in front of a young black woman and I said, “Please take a look behind me. I am chaperoning those young men. They are from the same community and are on the same team, but yet have been segmented by race for security. This is inexcusable!”

She looked at me and repeated, what I assume she was trained to say, and most likely said often, “Our computers randomly assigned the lines.” Shaking in frustration I said, “What’s random about what you’re witnessing behind me?” She handed me my ticket and gestured to me to move on.

I think about that experience often. In my mind, I see the boys standing on the left side of the rope with their heads hanging low and eyes facing the floor, while the boys standing on the right side of the rope quickly recognizing and verbalizing the bias they were witnessing before their eyes, but of course not fully understanding the gravity of what their peers were going through.

The situation opened up a great conversation between the boys while the moms listened in. I, however, felt as the adult representing all of the boys, more should have been done. They deserved better. I should have used the power I had to vocalize the injustice that required more explanation.

Whether or not the assertion was accurate and the process was random, I will never know. Did the person issuing the tickets have a conscious or unconscious bias that was reflected in a few of us receiving the PreCheck status based on race? If the process truly was randomly assigned by the system, the airline had a problem with bias in their algorithms.

I can’t change the way I reacted that day, but I can commit to doing better next time. This experience was a reminder that biases exist and biases have the potential to have a very negative impact on individuals.

Unconscious Biases

Almost every day in the news, there is at least one story about racism, sexism, or ageism. For many of us, we may think, “That’s not me.” The reality is that even amongst the most well-intended and open-minded people, unconscious biases exist. Most of us are unaware of our own biases and how they impact our decision making.

Cognitive biases, or errors in thinking processes, result from our brains naturally wanting to take a shortcut in order to reason or make a judgment. Our brains are wired to do this. Biases drive what we perceive, how we think, and what actions we take.

Over the last few months, we’ve been talking a lot about mindset and the importance of resetting our mindset to flourish after 50. Our mindsets influence our biases (and vice versa), so it’s important to pay attention, recognize our personal biases, and do everything we can to reframe them for our personal well-being and the well-being of others.

Common Biases to Be Aware Of

Although this isn’t a comprehensive list, here are some common biases to be aware of.

Self Serving Bias — attributing positive outcomes to skill and negative outcomes to luck

Implicit Bias — having innate preferences for people who look like us and suspicion for people who don’t

Confirmation Bias — seeking information and data that confirms pre-existing ideas and ignore data that contradict what we initially believed

Herd Mentality Bias — copying and following what others are doing (influenced by our emotions versus by an independent analysis of the facts)

Overconfidence Bias — having a false sense of skills, talents, knowledge, or ability greater than it is

Optimism or Pessimism Bias — overestimating the likelihood of positive or negative outcomes based on emotion.

Declining Bias — favoring the past (resisting change) over and above how things are going today

False Consensus Effect — overestimating how much other people agree with our own beliefs, attitudes, behaviors, and values

Recognize and Challenge Personal Biases

There are ways to begin recognizing your own biases.

Start here.

Increase awareness. Start by noticing your decisions, reactions, judgments, and responses throughout the day.
Ask yourself the following questions:
- Why am I making this decision, having a reaction, or responding this way?
- Is my decision, reaction, judgment, or response based on fact or emotion?
- Is this one of my biases?
- Who and what is making me uncomfortable? Why?
- What is my role in my actions?
Reflect back on the different cognitive biases. Are you making a decision, reacting, judging, or responding to the situation in a biased way? If you’re uncertain, ask a trusted friend or family member.
Practice responding differently based on your new awareness and knowledge.
Do things to shift your perception of the world and other people. Follow people who think differently than you. Explore new and diverse experiences to help see past what may be blind spots in your beliefs.

By uncovering your unconscious biases you can reshape your perspectives, decisions, and behaviors. Adopting a learning mindset toward yourself and your personal biases is a start to making more conscious decisions, altering your thought patterns, and resetting your mindset for flourishing after 50.

Together we RUMBLE.

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Live Well as You Age with These 4 Tips to Reset Your Mindset

We now have evidence that the brain is malleable. What this means is by learning new skills, changing current behaviors, and modifying lifelong habits for better health, you can halt cognitive decline as you age — even into your later years.

Live Well As You Age with These 4 Tips to Reset Your Mindset

You’ve done it before - picked up a new hobby, learned a new skill for work, or started a new morning routine. It’s not always easy to learn something new or change an existing behavior, especially as you get older. All humans are actually hardwired to resist change, but the younger generations generally find it easier to change than those of us in our prime time.

The reality is that getting out of your comfort zone, learning something, and adopting a new behavior (or two) is actually good for your brain health and has been shown to increase happiness. There is evidence that the brain is malleable. What this means is by learning new skills, changing current behaviors, and modifying lifelong habits for better health, you can halt cognitive decline as you age - even into your later years.

The story of decline in aging you’ve been told isn’t true. Successful aging requires a
change-is-good mindset, the desire to learn, and a progress, not perfection attitude.

Get Started with these four mindset reset tips listed below.

Create a Gratitude Mindset

A gratitude journal is a wonderful way to reset your mindset. By focusing on what you are grateful for, you'll open yourself up to experiencing an abundance of emotional, social, professional, and health benefits.

If you’re already in the practice of writing down what you’re grateful for, try taking your journaling a step further. Make one of your points of gratitude everyday descriptive about someone else and what they've done for you, so that not only are you grateful for your own life, but you also recognize the people in your life and how they contribute to your success and wellbeing. Then challenge yourself to spread gratitude to improve someone else's day.

Send the person you recognized in your journal a note to let them know how grateful you are for them and the impact they have had on your life. Think of the lives you can impact by committing to sending just one message a day!

Adopt a Fun Mindset

Rebecca’s high school boys had their high school finals coming up in one week. She realized that her freshman would be experiencing high school finals for the first time and might be feeling added pressure.

When she asked him how he was feeling about finals’ week, he replied, “I am so excited; preparing for finals is fun.”

Fun and finals weren’t the two words she expected to hear in the same sentence, but she was glad to hear he wasn’t stressed and overwhelmed.

Fun was his mindset which was making the process of preparing enjoyable and exciting.

What if you took this approach and reset your mindset when you had something stressful coming up in your life? What if, instead of an automatic response of being overwhelmed, you looked at a stressful event as something fun to be excited about? What if you focused on the process of learning being fun and took the pressure of the results off yourself?

Give it a try. A reset mindset towards fun can help change your perspective quickly and your life may even feel more fun!

Build an Intentional Mindset to Change for Good

Like many of you, we started 2021 by setting intentions and a word as our guide for what we want to give attention to over the next 12 months.Transitioning our desired behaviors into lifelong habits is part art, part awareness, daily work, and a whole lot of science.

A place to start is with proven strategies or ‘how tos’ on changing behavior for good.

We all have patterns of behaviors that we fall back on when we're feeling vulnerable, helpless, angry, stressed or alone. These can be choices that feel more comfortable than sitting still with our emotions. In reality, the only thing that behaviors done mindlessly do is cast a shadow inhibiting our ability to live wholeheartedly. These mindless behaviors give us a false and fleeting sense of soothing and comfort.

One reason we advocate for sitting still and going inward is the process helps you be mindful about the intentions behind your behavior choices. There are no checklists to identify mindless and comfort behaviors, but self reflection allows you to identify them for yourself.

Here is one question you can ask yourself that may help.

Do my choices comfort and nourish my spirit and contribute to my ability to live inside out and flourish, or are they a temporary respite from life?

Be intentional and identifying red flag personal behavior patterns to help you stay mindful on the path to reaching your goals. For example, if you automatically reach for the sweets after dinner, try going for a short walk instead.

Being intentional is a mindset. Intention can create awareness around habitual behaviors and help you create change for good.

Seek a Joyful Mindset

Aging well and flourishing after 50 doesn't require a lengthy to do list or lofty goals.

Focus on the joy in the journey!

Do things that nourish you from the inside out.

Here is where we have found joy the last few months:

Participate in gentle movement like yoga or meditation
Walk, ski, or snowshoe in nature
Have a conversation with a friend
Enjoy a wholesome meal with family or friends
Read a thought-provoking book
Listen to an intriguing podcast
Have a conversation with someone who holds a differing view-point, listen, and seek to understand
Plan a staycation
Enjoy the extra time at home to do a puzzle or play a game

By resetting your mindset to focus on the pleasure found in the moment versus what you’re not able to do right now, you’ll discover the joy in so many new experiences in your life. Plus, it can help you positively navigate your life during these stressful times. It’s certainly helped us.

Discover a YOU-First Mindset

Does the recommendation of putting yourself first make you cringe just a little bit? For many of us it certainly does — especially for women.

Stay with us here. As we’ve aged, we’ve grown tired of trying to live up to someone else’s expectation of who we should be, how we should act, and what we should look like as we age. For many of us, these external expectations create stress in our lives and have become an unrealistic burden that we’re trying unsuccessfully to live up to.

The reality is you get to decide and write your personal story. And, in doing so you will soften your mind, have greater clarity, and calmness as you evolve closer to your truer and more authentic self.

This is hard work. Society will tell you the goal is to be ageless, instead focus on loving yourself as you are and live age free.

How to begin? Go inward daily. Set your intentions. Do frequent check-ins to catch yourself if you get off track. Live. Love. Flourish.

At Rumblings, our philosophy is this...we must reset our mindset in order to live the life of our dreams.

By focusing on gratitude, intention, joy, and YOU, you can reset your mindset to flourish as you age!

Rumble On!

Rebecca and Karyn

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