Embrace the Journey: Rediscover Purpose in Midlife

"What are you doing with your life?" It echoes through the corridors of our minds, haunting us like a persistent shadow. We remember asking ourselves this in college, maybe even later in our twenties. But life happened—kids, careers, responsibilities—and that question got buried beneath the hustle and bustle of everyday life.

Fast-forward to today, and here we are, a community of midlife women, each navigating a unique maze of caregiving duties, changing relationships, and evolving roles. The question resurfaces, taunting us with its insistent presence.

"What are you doing with your life?"

Reinvent Midlife

But this time, instead of feeling a surge of possibility, doubt creeps in. Is it too late to chase your dreams? Can you reinvent your life, find new purposes, and acquire new skills?

The answer is a resounding YES!

Yes, even if you're unsure. Yes, even if you don't have all the answers. Yes, even if the path ahead seems daunting. Why? Because you are wiser now than you've ever been. You've weathered storms, faced challenges, and emerged stronger and more resilient on the other side.

Rewrite Your Story

It's still possible to rewrite your story. This is just the beginning of a new chapter filled with endless and untapped possibilities. And the best part? You're not alone on this journey. 

As a community of midlife women, we are here to support and uplift each other.

Let's embrace uncertainty, fear, and the unknown together. Let's forge ahead with courage, curiosity, and a willingness to explore. Ultimately, what matters most is not where we've been but where we're going—and the incredible adventures that await us along the way.

Embrace Change

Midlife is a time of transition. It's a period marked by profound shifts in our lives, both internally and externally. As we navigate the complexities of aging parents, grown children, and changing careers, it's natural to question our place in the world and our purpose in life.

But amid the uncertainty, there lies an opportunity—to reinvent yourself, rediscover your passions, and pursue your dreams with renewed vigor. This is your chance to embrace change, lean into the discomfort, and emerge on the other side stronger, wiser, and more fulfilled than ever before. The potential for growth and fulfillment in this new chapter of life is immense and within your reach. It’s a time to reset your mindset and renew your vision to live vibrantly and purposely. 

Seek Fulfillment

Finding fulfillment in midlife is not about achieving some elusive ideal of success or happiness. It's about embracing the messy, imperfect journey of self-discovery and growth. It's about learning to appreciate the beauty of the present moment, even as you strive for a better tomorrow.

So, lean into the unknown with an open heart and mind. Trust in your ability to navigate life's twists and turns with grace and resilience. And remember that no matter where this journey takes you, you're never alone. 

Together, we can face whatever challenges come our way and emerge more robust and resilient than ever.

Now is the Time

Midlife is not the end of the road – it's a new beginning. It's a chance to reinvent yourself, pursue your passions, and live on your terms. So, embrace this opportunity with courage, curiosity, and a sense of adventure. Write the next chapter of your life with boldness and determination. 

Start creating your vision for this next chapter. Check out the following resources for support:

1. Overcoming Resistance to Achieve Your Vision: A Midlife Women’s Guide

2. Midlife Transitions and Challenges: A Call for a Renewed Vision

3. 90-Day Vision Journal: Create and Live the Life of Your Dreams

4. 52-Week Email Vision Course 

5. Check out our in-person midlife transformation classes.

Remember, the best you is about to bloom and flourish!

How to Use Your Brain to Age Well and Stay Young

We all have the capacity to be fluid or fixed in our mindset. The growth path is to be adaptable to certain situations - to allow ourselves to be moved and changed due to our environment, experiences, and creative process. A fluid mindset creates new brain pathways leading to success, improves creativity, and helps growth, which will enable us to deal with the uncertainty ahead.

This past year has been a rollercoaster, full of highs and lows co-existing in a new definition of our human experience none of us were expecting. It’s lasted longer than most of us ever imagined.  

None of us has a crystal ball to know what the future holds, but it seems more unclear now than ever. Not knowing what’s coming next, nor how to plan for it and predict even the near future in any reasonable way, can be frightening and frustrating at the same time. 

It may feel as if time is standing still, but change is happening around us. In some aspects, change is accelerating. Without realizing it, this past year, we’ve also been gaining the skills and tools we need to reframe our plans for the future and redefine what that will look like, no matter how uncertain that future may be. 

In our last blog post, we shared how to become aware of unconscious cognitive biases that impact what we perceive, how we think, and what actions we take. 

As we begin to understand our unconscious biases and start reshaping our perspectives, decisions, and behaviors, our mindset begins to shift. Becoming aware of our preferences and shifting our mindset allows growth to occur, which will enable us to deal with the uncertainty ahead. We will have the fortitude to persevere in the face of the fear that comes with the unknown.

Below are just a few of the mindset reset types emerging from a growing body of research into the social science and neuroscience of how our brains work. Becoming familiar with them can help change our thinking and identify behaviors we’d like to modify.

Abundance vs. Scarcity - An abundance mindset focuses on the possibilities of what could be, resulting in feeling hopeful, grateful, and fulfilled. It begins with believing that we are enough. With that sense of being enough, we can embrace our worthiness, create boundaries, and be more fully engaged. It opens us up to be willing to be more present, allowing us to show up more fully and authentically. It requires vulnerability. 

A scarcity mindset is a notion that there is never enough, or worse, that we are not enough. This scarcity mindset can ultimately lead to internalizing our worthiness compared to others. Brene’ Brown describes scarcity as being the opposite of enough. Before we even get out of bed in the morning, our self-talk focuses on assessing and comparing ourselves to others - “I didn’t get enough sleep.” “I’m not _____ enough.” “Remember when?”. 

We all struggle with being open and vulnerable and wrestle with the self-doubt that comes from wanting to shield ourselves and fall back into a scarcity mindset. It takes awareness and continual practice to cultivate an abundance mindset. 

Growth vs. Fixed - The belief that mental abilities decline during aging is evolving. It turns out, peak mental age is later than believed, especially if we view our prime time years as an opportunity to reinvent and develop new interests. Creative capacity exponentially increases by pushing boundaries and learning new things by creating new neural pathways and causing our brains to change, no matter our age. Our brains also have excellent muscle memory from past experiences and knowledge that can help us master new challenges more quickly. When we continue to experiment, learn, and experience new things, our creativity compounds, especially in our later years. 

The challenge is the brain tries to be as efficient as possible and has a natural tendency to take the path of least resistance in our thinking processes. It has a preference for sticking with what is most comfortable. When we allow ourselves to give in to those tendencies to give up easily, avoid risks, and stop trying during the challenging parts of learning new skills, is where we succumb to a fixed mindset — we’re too old to change, or it’s not worth trying because it won’t matter. 

Infinite vs. Finite - A limitless mindset calls for continual growth and improvement. There is no end. The fulfillment comes from the journey and challenging yourself to become better. An infinite mindset applies to learning, leading, being healthy, and those things where it’s vital to strive constantly to stay in the game or participate in the journey. It’s about advancing something bigger than ourselves - we will never get there, but even so, we continue striving forward. We can have a finite goal to know we are making progress - such as a weight-loss or fitness goal, but striving for good health and well-being is an infinite mindset. We don’t reach an end and stop; health is a journey.

When we get caught up in a limiting or finite mindset, we can get stuck in repeating negative self-talk or thinking through the worst scenarios and outcomes. But those ‘what if’ statements that we play in our minds can go both ways. More recent science suggests that our brains are not only malleable and can change but have the ability to develop new pathways. 

Accepting change can be challenging, mainly because it requires action and growth. Resisting change almost always comes out of a transition from something happy and pleasant, or at least comfortable. Change may be uncomfortable and unpredictable. Given that change is inevitable, it is time to embrace change, see it as an opportunity for growth, and understand that the process is essential for brain health.

There are steps to can take to reframe how we experience change. These actions may help our head and heart surrender to embrace the natural discomfort that results:

1. Remember the reality that change is constant and inevitable. We go through change on average every 12-18 months. It’s a natural process.

2. Run through future scenarios and work them out in our head, using the negative ‘what ifs’ as an opportunity to make mistakes in your head so we can avoid them in real life. Then pivot and also play out ‘what if’ scenarios that may result in a positive outcome. 

3. Reflect on the benefit of age and experiences. Think about times you’ve embraced change and how you grew as a result. Remember, over time, we tend to gloss over the more painful struggles and hurt and remember the good memories and the growth we gained from change. You have survived change 100 percent of the time. 

By reflecting on our past experiences, it is almost always the more challenging times and events that lead to more meaningful progress in life. The past year’s challenges can be a tremendous opportunity to transition and have the potential to bring a new way of being in this world if we’re open to it. 

At Rumblings, we believe our prime years and our best accomplishments are still ahead of us. We also believe that to achieve our goals and make our dreams a reality, abundance, growth, and infinite mindsets are critical. 

Yes, change is accelerating, but perhaps one of the learnings from this pandemic is that it gave us the tools that we desperately needed -  time for stillness and going inside ourselves so that we can have a fresh look at the world around us. The deeper insights we gain, combined with our wisdom, allow us to more carefully curate the change and the dreams we have for our lives. 

The fortitude to persevere is the cousin to confidence - it is what comes from creating new brain pathways that lead to consistent success at achieving goals. We have the wisdom of our life experiences from which to pull. There is power in that knowledge gained from our experiences, especially when we realize we’re not yet fully formed. We can only open ourselves to this potential if we consistently choose the more open mindsets and build confidence in our capacity for change. 

We will all have doubts. It’s a constant reframing practice, pulling ourselves away from the negative ‘what ifs,’ self-talk, catching ourselves sooner, and gaining strength in our abilities. That is part of creating new pathways in our brains and developing new patterns of thinking and behaviors. 

Brain malleability is learning from doing and developing new muscle memory. You can pull from that to form mastery gained from your previous muscle memory and experiences. Building from previous experiences to create even more pathways is the key to a long, fulfilling, and prosperous life quality in your later years. 

Do the work. You’re growing and learning. More than ever, now is your time to shine and share your unique gifts. 

Together we Rumble!

Karyn and Rebecca