Why Physical Activity is Important as We Age

We know that physical activity and exercise are essential. Physical Activity is one of the most important things we can do for our overall health. Yet, for many of us, we have the same type of relationship with exercise that we do with fad diets.

We try it, and we may even try the latest exercise trend, yet less than half of the people who start an exercise program stick with it for more than six months.  

The benefits of exercise and activity are clear. Anyone who is physically able should accumulate 150 minutes of moderate physical activity every week, and half as much if that activity is intense.

In 2018, the Physical Activity Guidelines for Americans were updated to recommend how much adults should move. It includes a review of movement, sitting, and health science.

It’s difficult to shift through the information on how much exercise is enough. How hard does exercise have to be to count? Do you have to do 30 minutes all at once for five days a week? Is it even worth the effort to do less? The most straightforward answer to these questions is moving more and sitting less. Continue to do that consistently, and you will reap the health benefits.

Research shows middle-aged and older adults spend an average of 8.5 to 10.5 hours a day sedentary. Compared with their more active peers, this inactive group had higher mortality rates.

The most important thing you can do is to get off the couch. The most significant health benefits come from spending less time being sedentary and more time being physically active. We spend most of our free time sitting. Many of us work at a desk in front of a computer. Since the pandemic, we sit even more. We transition from our desk chairs to spending our evenings in front of a screen or reading a book. We drive to do our errands, pick the closest parking spot to the door, use drive-thru windows, and meet friends for dinner and sit.

Even kids, the most active segment of the population, have dramatically increased the amount of time they spend being sedentary.

Many who do structured exercise each day with a run, walk, or other cardiovascular (cardio) activity are sedentary for the remainder of the day.

An inactive lifestyle has many adverse effects on your health. You burn fewer calories, contributing to a loss of muscle strength contributing to weight gain. Your bones grow weaker and lose mineral content. Your metabolism changes and your body won’t break down fats and sugars. When this happens, it causes inflammation and poor immune function.

Those health effects from inactivity ultimately lead to the diseases that midlife women experience with age leading to more and more inactivity.  Lack of physical activity can contribute significantly to an inability to live independently and have a high quality of life as we age. 

It’s time to get honest about getting active and find ways to be active throughout your day. Get bite-sized activity ‘snacks’ spread throughout each day. These snacks are essential whether you’re doing a 30-minute brisk walking session or similar activity five times a week or are a couch potato.

If you are a yo-yo exerciser, primarily sedentary, or a somewhat inactive exerciser, try building a foundation of daily physical activity. Move more and sit less throughout the day, and you may find yourself moving into a daily exercise program you can sustain as a regular habit.

By incorporating activity snacks, you may enjoy counting steps and find that you can accumulate the number of steps to improve your health.  Newer research indicates the optimal step count for people younger than 60 is about 8,000 to 10,000 a day and 6,000 to 8,000 for those 60 and older. You may even accumulate the 150 minutes of moderate physical activity recommended each week without even realizing it. 

What do these activity snacks look like? Check out the ideas below. It’s easier and more fun than you might imagine incorporating small chunks of activity throughout the day. Start by using these ideas, and then create your own.

• Take a break from sitting. Get up, stand, or move for at least 10 minutes every hour. Set a timer as a reminder. 

• Have shorter meetings. Shorten meetings to 25 or 50 minutes and use the extra time to move.

• Walk one flight up, two flights down. Always take the stairs whenever possible, even if you only start with one or two flights.

• Walk the dog. Rather than let your dog out into the yard, take them for a walk. It’s an excellent activity for both of you!

• Park farther away. Take a parking spot farther away from the door and walk when driving to errands. It’s easier to find a spot, and there will be less traffic further away.

• Find every opportunity to walk. Walk around during phone calls. Walk rather than sit in a coffee shop. Get up during TV commercials. Walk during breaks at sporting events.

• Schedule an active gathering. When getting together with family and friends, have it centered around activity. Hike, take a scenic walk or even play Pickleball.

• Play more. If you have grandkids or even older children, find a way to incorporate more play into your day. It’s a fun way to spend quality time with them, and it models active behavior for them.

• Walk to do your errands. Walk to the grocery store, pick up dry cleaning, or the bank.

• Use a standing desk. The more time spent standing rather than sitting or reclining (other than sleeping), the better. Meet or work standing up.

• Do yard work or garden. Weeding, watering, or tending a garden or yard is a fun way to be outdoors and get activity.

• Stretch every day. If daily exercise is a struggle, do a daily stretch as a way to stay flexible while adding more physical activity.

Are you looking for even more ideas? Download Rumblings’ 40 free tips for incorporating more movement in your day as part of our Move in May Challenge, or read our blog post on ways to move more and sit less in midlife.

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What Women Can Do to Care for Heart Health After 50

Turning 50 is a wake-up call for many of us.

During our 30s and 40s, we may not have prioritized our health while raising kids and building careers. The good news is it’s not too late.  

It’s our mission at Rumblings to ensure you have the science-based facts and education you need to understand your health risks and be your own best health advocate while also providing you with tools to put knowledge into action.  

This month, we’re focusing on heart health—the number one killer of women.

After menopause, heart disease risk in women increases, yet, only 56 percent of women identify cardiovascular disease as the most significant health problem facing them today.

Preventive cardiologist Dr. Courtney Jordan Baechler*, spoke to a group of Rumblings women about heart health, prevention, treatment, and what midlife women can do to improve overall health.

Not all of you could attend the in-person event, so we took what we learned and provided additional information to ensure you have the facts, resources, and tools to live well, flourish, and take great care of your heart as you age. The information below summarizes our 60-minute discussion. It is not a comprehensive list of everything you can do as it only covers the conversation and questions asked during the evening.

No matter where you’re at in your health journey, there is never a more critical time to take care of yourself.

Understand that current heart health recommendations for prevention and treatment are based primarily on men's research. 

It wasn’t until 1993 that women were mandated to be included in medical research reversing a restriction since 1977 that prevented women of childbearing potential from participating in clinical research. It created a two-decade gap in new medical knowledge on women. Women, as a result, may be misdiagnosed and mistreated more often than men, partly because scientists know far less about the female body.

Today women still only represent about 25 to 35 percent of subjects in clinical trials. We have a long way to go to ensure women are equally represented in research and that the knowledge used to create prevention and treatment recommendations represent us. This is critical to understand so you can have conversations with your medical providers and advocate for your health.

Today's underlying assumption in medical research is that not every trial will have 50 percent women subjects. We need to expect that women are 50 percent of all National Institutes of Health (NIH) funded trials. If not, we need to understand why participating doesn’t work for women and work to solve this systemic issue. Health care has been traditionally designed for families with a stay-at-home spouse with well-covered insurance, and that doesn’t work for most US families today.  

We need all women to advocate for greater inclusivity of women in medical research, as research informs the care women receive.

What can you do?

• Arm yourself with knowledge. Watch Ms. Diagnosed — an award-winning film following the stories of real women whose lives and families have been disastrously affected by this basic inequity in medical care that women receive.

• Stay up-to-date on women’s research. Read patient stories and sign-up for electronic communications from trusted research institutions like the Penny Anderson’s Cardiovascular Center at the Minneapolis Heart Institute Foundation, where Dr. Jordan Baechler works.    

•  Support research with women through financial contributions as you’re able.

Know your heart disease risk.

After menopause women’s risk for developing heart disease is similar to men's risk. The most significant risk factor for developing heart disease is age.

As we age, several risk factors to monitor and discuss regularly with your care provider include:

• High blood pressure which has no symptoms, and many people don’t know they have it, can lead to heart disease and stroke. 

• Being overweight or having obesity raises your risk of heart disease. Women often complain about weight gain during and after menopause.

• Arrhythmias, like atrial fibrillation, are fluttering feelings in your chest (palpitations).

• High cholesterol increases with age. Cholesterol is a waxy, fat-like substance made by the liver or found in certain foods. Your liver makes enough cholesterol to meet your body’s needs, but we may eat foods that increase cholesterol in our blood.

• High LDL (low-density lipoprotein) cholesterol is considered the “bad” cholesterol because it can cause plaque buildup in your arteries, reducing blood flow to the heart.

• Having diabetes causes sugar to build up in the blood. The risk for heart disease for adults with diabetes is higher than for adults without diabetes.

• Eating a poor diet.

• Physical inactivity.

• Drinking too much alcohol.

• Using tobacco. No amount is considered healthy. 

It’s imperative you know your risk and what to do about it.

What can you do?

• Know your blood pressure. Have it checked regularly. Ask for your numbers and understand the levels healthy for you.  Keep track of them or get a blood pressure monitor to check it yourself between visits to your doctor.  

• Calculate your BMI ( body mass index), which is a measure of fat based on height and weight. It’s a measurement used to calculate risk. However, it’s not a perfect measurement because it does not consider muscle mass, bone density, overall body composition, and racial and sex differences. If your BMI is outside the normal weight range, talk to your health care provider to determine if you should be concerned.  

• Use a risk calculator to determine your risk and talk to your medical provider or other health professionals about managing your risk.

Be aware of signs and symptoms of a heart attack that may differ from the symptoms men experience.  

A heart attack may not feel the same in women as in men. Dr. Jordan Baechler stated women might experience an overwhelming sense of depression, nausea, shoulder pain, teeth pain, anxiety, or jaw pain. However, the most common symptoms are similar to what men experience: chest pressure, tight chest, neck or jaw pain, feeling like an elephant sitting on the chest, or numbness, usually on the left side. The critical thing to realize is that whatever you’re experiencing if it is significantly disproportionate to anything you’ve ever experienced before, you need to get evaluated.

What can you do?

• Familiarize yourself with the common symptoms of a heart attack.

Talk to your primary care physician to ensure close attention is paid to your heart health as you get older.

You are an equal partner with your primary care providers. Make sure you know everything they are doing to manage your overall health and health risks.  Ask questions about tests and procedures to ensure you understand what they’re for, what you’ll learn from them, and how the outcomes will inform future recommendations and care.

What can you do?

• Restate! If you feel you are not getting the answers you deserve or feel dismissed, the best thing you can do is restate what your providers are saying back to them. Doing so may stop bias or dismissiveness from happening. For example, say, ”So you’re confident I am not having a heart attack or blood clot or (insert any symptom).”

Discuss the following lab tests with your primary care providers to better understand your heart health and disease risk.

The lipid panel includes total cholesterol, LDL cholesterol, HDL cholesterol, and triglycerides. The goal is to have total cholesterol of less than 200, but it does not automatically mean you need treatment. Today providers are looking at LDL cholesterol (most associated with coronary artery disease and blockages in your arteries), with less than 130 considered healthy. However, lower is better, and if you have disease most providers want it below 70. Having an LDL less than 70 is difficult to do without medication, no matter how clean you’re eating. HDL is the good cholesterol, and a desirable level is greater than 50. Triglycerides are an indicator of how well you eat and your genetics. If your triglycerides are high, it could indicate your simple or processed carbohydrate intake is too high. A triglyceride level less than 150 is considered healthy.

Know your fasting blood sugar. A healthy level of fasting blood sugar is 99 mg/dL or lower. Anything between 100 to 125 mg/dL indicates you have pre-diabetes and could benefit from lifestyle changes starting with eating and physical activity.

Hemoglobin A1c is a simple blood test that measures your average blood sugar levels over the past three months. It’s one of the most commonly used tests to diagnose prediabetes and diabetes and manage diabetes if you have it.

You can consider advanced testing such as a calcium score which is an x-ray of your coronary arteries that tells you if you have plaque or not. A calcium score does not tell us whether there is a narrowing of the arteries; that is what an angiogram does. More doctors are recommending a calcium score test to quantify risk as a way to determine if a medication like a statin may be beneficial. If you’re healthy and post-menopausal, should you get a calcium score? It’s a personal decision on how informed you like to be and whether or not you would take action, such as taking a statin if one is recommended. It’s an earlier way to detect plaque and disease and a new tool in the toolbox. For some people, it’s helpful. The results compare you to other people of the same gender and age. You get a percentage on how you rank 0-100.

If you have palpitations, you want to mention this to your doctor to potentially get a monitor to assess the cause and any underlying concerns.

Consider a stress test if you have symptoms. No data indicates you need to have one without symptoms. 

What can you do?

• Have a conversation with your primary care provider to determine what tests are right for you.

• When contemplating a test like a calcium score, good questions to ask yourself are:

  •  Do you want to know your risk? 

  • Will the results change your personal decision?

  • Do you want that information or not? Knowledge is power, but if knowing the facts will keep you up at night, it may not be worth it. It may be better for you to focus on lifestyle behaviors to reduce your risk. 

  • If you have no symptoms, a calcium score may be unnecessary as it most like won’t change the recommendations from your provider other than medication recommendations. If you are someone who may feel stressed or anxious from knowing your score or has no desire to take a statin, you may not want to know your calcium score.

• Talk to your provider about your numbers.

Understand how inflammation impacts heart health.

Inflammation is not a good thing. Understanding the impact of inflammation on disease is changing the future of how we think about and treat diseases like cardiovascular disease.  Cholesterol is one inflammatory marker. It will be interesting to see how much emphasis is put on cholesterol in the future. Dr. Jordan Baechler predicts that more emphasis will be placed on inflammation and less on cholesterol levels over the next 20 years. 

The best way to detect and measure inflammation is with a high sensitivity C-reactive protein blood test (hs-CRP).  This test is becoming more common, and Dr. Jordan Baechler orders it frequently for her patients. It’s another way to help quantify the risk for heart disease. The results will indicate your risk for developing blockages in your arteries. inflammatory conditions increase your risk of developing coronary artery disease, so the better the inflammation is managed, the less likely you will develop future heart blockages.

What can you do?

• Focus on the food you eat. People can see inflammation improvements by changing the foods they eat. Dr. Jordan Baechler has seen patients make food modifications and seen significant changes in inflammation. Start by getting a minimum of 5-11 servings of fruits and vegetables every day. If you’re looking for more guidance on what and how much to eat, Dr. Jordan Baechler recommends the following eating patterns which vary in how strict the recommendations are:

o   The Mediterranean Diet is a good style of eating and an excellent place to start.

o   The Anti-inflammatory Diet is plant-based with fish and one to two items of other nonplant protein portions a week. The recommendations are a little stricter than a Mediterranean diet, yet has more options than a vegan diet.

o   The Vegan Diet includes no animal products. Work with a registered dietitian nutritionist to ensure you’re getting adequate nutrition for good health and energy..

Get off the fad diet craze roller coaster.

Food recommendations overlap between diseases. Everyone is unique and there is not a one size fits all heart-healthy eating pattern recommendation.

Unfortunately, there is a lot of conflicting information online about the best way to eat. For example, some recommendations given for heart health do not always work for weight loss and obesity which are risk factors for developing cardiovascular disease.

Dr. Jordan Baechler gets asked frequently about ketogenic diets and advises her patients that the American version of the diet is often too high in processed fats and can be hard on your heart. She believes a ketogenic diet when followed strictly for long periods can raise the risk of heart disease.

What can you do?

• See a registered dietitian nutritionist to tailor recommendations for you, your lifestyle and your health risks. Dietitians are trained in medical nutrition therapy and behavior change. They can help you modify your eating patterns for life.  

• Consider following one of the three eating patterns listed above that have research behind them and show heart health benefits.

• To manage your weight as you age, you may need to consider increasing the good fat and reducing refined carbohydrates you eat in order to be successful in the long term.  A registered dietitian can help you make these modifications successfully.

Eat well, move more, don’t smoke, drink moderately, manage stress, sleep and be kind to yourself.

Changing habits can be challenging. Ask yourself the following questions:

• Where are you at?

• How can you do a little better?  

The goal is to start small. Quality of life is very important. Dr. Jordan Baechler recommends practicing the 80/20 rule (she does this too)— 80% of the time try to adhere to a healthful way of living. Find a balance that works for you. Every day is another day.

Evidence suggests making four critical changes—move 30 minutes a day, eat a minimum of five servings of fruits and vegetables, don’t use tobacco, and drink alcohol in moderation — you may get an extra decade of high-quality life. Only five percent of Americans do these four things. How are you doing with these behaviors?

It’s also important to manage stress by practicing calm. Most of us don’t do this, we’re constantly in a flight or fight state which takes a toll on our overall health and well-being. 

More and more research is emphasizing the critical importance of sleep to overall health. Ensure you wake up feeling rested. Usually, this means getting six to eight hours of sleep for most people. If you’re struggling to sleep or sleep well seek help earlier. You don’t want to suffer for two years before you get help. There are options that can help such as supplements, acupuncture, movement, food, etc.

Although not directly related to heart health, strength training with weights is important for building lean body mass which is especially important in midlife to prevent muscle loss. Lean body mass is also important for losing and maintaining weight as women age.  

The message is that we can all do a little better, one small change at a time. Don’t beat yourself up if you aren’t perfect today. Tomorrow is a new day.

What can you do?

• Move a minimum of 30 minutes a day. You can do It all at one time, or spread movement breaks throughout the day.  Join the Rumblings Move in May Challenge by downloading 40 ways to be active and follow us on social media for support and encouragement as we add more movement in our days throughout the month.

• Consider strength training with weights to build lean muscle and help manage weight as you age.

• Eat a minimum of five fruits and vegetables a day. Although our March Fruit and Veggie Challenge is over, you can still download 40 creative tips for eating more fruit and veggies in your day.

• Don’t use tobacco products.

• Limit alcohol to one drink a day for women and two drinks a day for men.  

• Practice calm— meditation, yoga, staring at a candle, prayer, etc.— in whatever way works for you for a minimum of 10-minutes a day.

• Sleep a minimum of six to eight hours a night. Wake up rested.

Chose foods key to a heart-healthy diet.

Research from Tufts University found that ten foods are estimated to cause nearly half of all US deaths from heart disease each year: eating too few nuts/seeds, seafood Omega-3, vegetables, fruit, whole grains, and polyunsaturated fats, and too much sodium, processed meat, sugary beverages, and processed red meat. This research also suggests that whole-fat dairy consumption can be part of a healthy diet, especially those with probiotic-containing unsweetened and fermented dairy products such as yogurt and certain aged and unpasteurized cheeses.  

If you’re trying to manage your blood cholesterol, natural compounds can be found in certain plant-based foods like fruits, vegetables, whole grains, legumes, nuts, seeds, and some vegetable oils have a valuable role.  Eating them helps limit the amount of cholesterol your body can absorb. These natural compounds in plants are called sterols, stanols, or phytosterols.  They can also be found in foods like margarine, cheeses, milk, cereals, and snacks that have been fortified with them. Check the labels for sterols, stanols, or phytosterols, and aim for 2 grams a day.

What can you do?

• Reach for nuts/seeds as snacks and toppings

• Aim for two Omega-3-containing seafood servings a week like salmon, sardines, Atlantic mackerel, cod, herring, lake trout, or canned tuna.

• Eat a minimum of five servings of fruits and vegetables a day

• Substitute whole grains for processed grains

• When eating dairy, choose unsweetened probiotic-containing yogurt and aged, unpasteurized cheeses like Swiss, provolone, gouda, cheddar, Edam, Gruyere, feta, caciocavallo, Emmental, and parmesan. Eat them sparingly.

Before taking dietary vitamins or supplements, work with a registered dietitian nutritionist and your medical providers to determine which ones can benefit you.

Supplement recommendations require an individualized approach based on deficiencies, medications, activity levels, and food consumed. Dr. Jordan Baechler prefers you get nutrients from your food first. 

In terms of heart health, there are no supplements that have been shown in studies to help clinically reduce heart disease risk. However, she is a fan of supplements when indicated. Supplements should be used as a complement to your food and medication regimen, not as a replacement. This is especially critical once the disease has developed.

There was a question about coenzyme Q10 (CoQ10) and statin use. CoQ10 is an antioxidant that your body produces naturally. Your cells use CoQ10 for growth and maintenance. Levels naturally decline as you age and are found to be lower in those who take certain medications, like statins. Statins are metabolized in your mitochondria and can deplete natural CoQ10 in your body. A supplement can help replace what is lost and there are minimal side effects to taking it. CoQ10 has also been seen to be helpful for those with heart failure. Dr. Jordan Baechler recommends starting with 200 mg a day if you’re on a statin or if your blood systolic blood pressure is over 130.

What can you do?

• Talk to your medical providers about the dietary supplement, vitamin needs, or medications specifically for you as you age This could include statins, CoQ10, and other vitamins and minerals. It can be helpful for your provider to analyze your blood levels and determine together with you what combination of supplements is right for you. 

Know what to consider if you’re advised to take a statin or aspirin.

Statins are the number one drug prescribed to lower cholesterol. Statins are intended to be used to stabilize plaque so you don’t have a heart attack or stroke, and that requires you to be on them for the rest of your life. There are no long-term effects of statin use that we know of today. Dr. Jordan Baechler feels safe having people on them, including her family members.

Before prescribing a statin, your doctor will consider all your risk factors for heart attacks and strokes. Eighty percent of people do great on statins and have no adverse effects. However, about 20 percent of people complain about side effects such as headaches, nausea, or muscle aches. If you experience side effects, talk to your doctor to review your risk factors for heart attack and stroke to see if it is recommended to discontinue the medication. Most patients’ complaints disappear as a result of stopping medications.

If you feel strongly you don’t want to be on a statin, you shouldn’t be on a statin. The mind is extremely powerful.  There was a trial done at the Minneapolis Heart Institute Foundation where people were blinded between statin and placebo and had equal side effects. At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter. If you don’t want to be on it, you don’t want to be on it.

It’s your body so you can decide when and if you want to be on or off a statin. There are other non-statin cholesterol-lowering medications you can discuss with your physician if statins don’t feel like the right choice for you.  

The use of aspirin in preventing heart disease as we age is common. However, aspirin recommendations have changed, and it is no longer recommended unless you have a diagnosis of heart disease. If you have established heart disease, your doctor may recommend 81 mg of aspirin daily. Aspirin use is a good topic to discuss with your doctor.    

What can you do?

• Discuss cholesterol-lowering medication options with your medical provider.

• If you have side effects from statins, talk to your physician about alternative types of cholesterol-lowering medications.

• If you have established heart disease, discuss the benefits and risks of daily low-dose aspirin

Discuss hormone replacement therapy (HRT) to manage menopausal symptoms with your provider.

There is an increased heart disease risk with hormone replacement therapy. However, not sleeping — a common occurrence during and after menopause — also increases your risk for heart disease. Work with your physician to decide the right option for you individually. If using HRT, Dr. Jordan Baechler recommends using the lowest dose possible to manage symptoms rather than using it to get hormone levels back to premenopausal levels.

Bioidentical hormone replacement therapy is one option to discuss with your provider. These hormones are from plant estrogens that are chemically identical to human-produced hormones may be slightly better than traditional hormone replacement therapy.  They are however more expensive.

What can you do?

• If you have menopausal symptoms, discuss low-dose hormone replacement therapy or bioidentical hormone replacement therapy with your medical providers.

There are many things you can do to prevent disease and reduce risks. Knowledge is power, and small changes add up. Take it one step at a time, and soon you’ll find yourself flourishing in midlife.

If you are facing other midlife challenges, we want to hear from you so that we can provide the expertise and answers to your questions through similar events, online webinars, newsletters, and future books.

If you want to read more about heart health, check out 5 Actions to Improve Heart Disease Risk and How to Care for Your Heart After 50.

* Dr. Jordan Baechler serves as medical director of health equity and health promotion at the Minneapolis Heart Institute Foundation.   Her previous roles included an appointment as assistant commissioner for the Minnesota Department of Health.  Before that, she served as Vice President of the Penny George Institute for Health and Healing, Allina Health’s prevention, wellness, and clinical service line.  She served as a consultant to the Statewide Health Improvement Plan for the clinical workgroup in Minneapolis.  She has been one of the authors of the Healthy Lifestyle Guideline for the Institute for Clinical Systems Improvement. She serves on the MN Department of Health Prevention of Cardiovascular and Stroke Committee.  Her leadership roles have included general board member for the YMCA of the Greater Twin Cities, MDH Maternal mortality and Review Committee member, and a policy advocate for the American Heart Association of MN and co-chair of the Twin Cities Go Red campaign 2020-2021.  She is passionate about helping individuals, families, and communities to find their highest state of well-being—body, mind, and spirit.

5 Ways to Embrace the Senior Discount

There is no category for midlife between young adults and seniors. Although AARP membership is open to adults 50 years or older and stores senior discounts often begin at 55, midlife women don’t think or feel like senior citizens. Plus, businesses and organizations aren’t effectively talking to midlife women in advertising, marketing campaigns, and customer service initiatives in a way that matches how we feel. This can take a toll on how women think about themselves as we age. Read our five ways to reset our midlife mindset to age well, and embrace the senior discount!

Last week a Walgreens employee nicely and appropriately asked me (Rebecca) if I qualified for the senior discount. Caught off guard, I responded, “How old do I have to be to quality?” She said, “55!” I wasn’t sure if I should be thrilled I didn’t qualify or disappointed I missed out on 20 percent off my purchase. 

Karyn and I often talk about the lack of a category for midlife between young adults and seniors. Although AARP membership is open to adults 50 years or older and, as we’re starting to learn, store discounts begin at 55 years old, we’re not senior citizens (often defined as over the age of 62).

With improved knowledge on prevention and new scientific discoveries around longevity, we would also argue that those standards should even be older. Why does it matter? Businesses and organizations aren’t effectively talking with us in advertising, marketing campaigns, and customer service initiatives in a way that matches how we feel. This can take a toll on how we think about ourselves as we age.

Although I am working on it, these confrontations can do a number on my mindset, which is usually pro-aging! That day, I walked out of Walgreens thinking that my wrinkles, hair, and lack of make-up must be screaming that I am old. Why else would she ask me about the discount? 

Luckily with the work we’re doing at Rumblings, I recognized my spiraling mindset and redirected my thoughts to how great I felt before I walked through the Walgreens door, having just finished a weight workout and a kale salad lunch. I quickly refocused my internal conversation to reflect that this woman was only trying to save me money rather than comment on my age or appearance. 

How do you reset your mindset when you feel too old, invisible, or undervalued? 

Try these five resets to swap positive thoughts for negative ones. 

Recognize your thoughts, feelings, and emotions.

Honor how you’re feeling. Sit with it. Be present. Is your internal chatter leading you down a positive path? Are these thoughts and feelings giving you energy or sapping essential resources? Is your reaction a pattern? So many of our responses are hardwired we don’t recognize how misaligned they are with our values. Aging is a good thing. Remember, you’re not alone in this journey.

Identify why you’re feeling this way.

Why are these negative thoughts, feelings, and emotions prioritized over positive ones? What can you learn from how you’re feeling to help you react differently? What was your trigger? My trigger at Walgreens was the word “senior” preceding the discount and the images I have about being seen as a senior citizen too soon. Reflect on your responses and write them down. 

Redirect your thoughts.

Think about alternative views you could swap for your current reaction to a comment or situation. How would different responses align better with your values? After I walked out of the Walgreen’s door, I realized I had let one question impact how I was feeling at that moment. My reaction was not aligned with my core beliefs and value of wanting to age well with vibrancy and positivity. I needed to redirect my thoughts to how I wanted to feel. I did that by reflecting on how I felt before walking into the store and how I could get back to those feelings.  

Practice how you will respond differently next time you’re in a similar situation.

Visualize your new reactions. Play them over in your mind. Practice how it could play out differently with a friend. How do these new reactions make you feel? The more you do this, the more likely you will naturally respond differently next time. 

Reignite.

We often talk about reigniting ourselves in midlife because the reality is we want to honor our age, learn from our experiences, and regenerate the spark that may have dimmed as a result of the anti-aging messages we receive daily in society. This takes practice. Stepping into how you want to live is necessary. Don’t hold yourself back based on society’s expectations. Just do it. Reset and reignite today! 

Next time I walk into Walgreen’s on senior discount day, I’ll be ready to embrace my age and ask for the discount because no matter how it is communicated, I am thankful, grateful, and saving money!

This process isn’t easy, but going through it is necessary to reset our mindset to feel great and live well as we age. Showing up as our authentic, vibrant, and true selves can also begin to shift the norms of how society views midlife women. 

Let’s RUMBLE, embrace our age, live well, and flourish together!  

Learn more about resetting your mindset through gratitude, fun, intention, and joy here. 

12 Simple Makeup Tips for Midlife Women

We don’t talk much about beauty trends and makeup in midlife because we deeply oppose the anti-aging messaging we witness in beauty industry marketing campaigns. This type of advertising puts too much unrealistic pressure on midlife women not to age. The messages women shouldn’t have wrinkles, gray hair, or sagging skin feed on our vulnerabilities and are wrong. 

We are aging. We shouldn’t hide from it. What we know about aging has evolved, providing us with opportunities to age well and differently than previous generations. It’s time to embrace our age, enjoy life, and live vibrantly into the future. 

Living well as we age and focusing on doing it from the inside out is possible. But, we also understand part of living well is feeling good in whatever ways work for you. If that means wearing trendy clothes, using makeup, using the latest skincare products, or dying your hair, we’re all for it! We do it too! 

In 2021, we were so pleased to work with Multi-Media Make-up Artists Amy Marie Reed and Carmelle Eickhoff. They educated us and other midlife women on how to adapt our makeup routines as we age.  

The information provided was so helpful that we asked them to share a few simple tips to help you make adjustments in your makeup routine so you continue to feel fresh and vibrant in midlife.  

Just like you refresh your wardrobe and update your style, you can use makeup and skincare to reflect your style and personality.

Take care of your skin first! 

• Moisturize. Moisturize. Moisturize. 

• Apply moisturizer before makeup and let it set before applying makeup. 

Use a foundation or tinted moisturizer to even out skin discolorations over the entire face. 

• Apply under the chin and down the neck area and blend well. 

• Use silicone moisturizers under silicone-based foundations. If you use a water-based moisturizer, use a water-based foundation. 

• Switch from cake or powder foundations to one that is cream or liquid.

Reconsider blush.

• Use cream blushes blending to hairline and high on cheekbones. 

Enhance your lips!

• Use lipsticks, glosses, and blushes interchangeably. 

• Avoid frosty lipsticks. 

• Have fun playing with color and top off with a “sticky” clear lip gloss for moisture.

• Avoid “smeary” glosses that will settle into lip lines and smudge. 

• Use your lip liner to fill in your entire lips for a long-wearing, matte lipstick look.

• For smoother, softer lips, use an exfoliator at night. Follow it with a Vitamin E Stick to bring full moisture back to your lips. 

• To prevent your lipstick from bleeding, try semi-matte lipstick. It has less moisture, but moisture is what creates movement of the lipstick. 

• After applying your first layer of lipstick, set your lip look with a translucent powder just like you would set your makeup, and then use another layer of lipstick for a long-lasting hold.

Avoid using too much powder, especially under the eyes. 

• Using a colorless powder over foundations to “set” foundations or conceal pore areas is fine - but less is more. 

Showcase those lashes. 

• Consider using a lash curler to lift lashes. 

• Apply mascara at the very root of lashes - wiggling it to get in the lash line. You may need two coats of mascara and remove any clumps after application.

Take care of your eyelids. 

• Eyelids get oily as time passes, so use an eyeshadow primer to help with shadow adherence and longevity and even out skin discoloration before applying shadow. 

• Stick with soft neutral shadows. Shadows with a sheen are preferable to shimmery or sparkly. 

• Eyeshadow primer is also helpful on lower lashes and lower lid areas to apply shadows used as a replacement for eyeliner. Avoid lighter or shimmery colors on hooded eyes. 

• Replace eyeliner with an eyeshadow in lash lines to darken and enhance lashes. 

Be sure to blend.

• Blend edges of all makeup, whether blush or shadows, to eliminate harsh lines. 

Consider concealers.

•  Start with very thin layers, and be sure not to miss the inner corners of eyes that tend to darken with time. 

• Gently tap concealers with a brush under your eyes or use the warmth of your ring finger to tap in. Less is more!

Set your look.

• Using a final overall face mist with a setting spray helps secure your makeup and make it last. 

Leave your brows to professionals.

• Professionally wax and tint your brows. 

• Touch-up brows with eye shadow or pencils in between maintenance appointments. 

End your day with a clean face!

• Wash makeup entirely off your face and neck every night.
  

Would you like more midlife fashion and style tips? Download Rumblings Media's Fashion After 50 Tips curated by fashion experts to help you edit your closet, build a capsule wardrobe, select swimwear, and more!

Can protein help women age well?

Eating adequate protein plays an essential role in preserving skeletal muscle as women age.

It’s impossible to move through your day without seeing a headline about what you should eat for good health. In your lifetime, you’ve most likely witnessed the popularity of macronutrients (carbohydrates, fat, or protein) rise and fall. Most of us are old enough to remember the nonfat obsession of the early 90s. Today protein is all the rage, but does it have a role in aging well through menopause and beyond?

Eating protein is essential to good health. As you age, it helps maintain healthy muscles and physical functioning. Compared to carbohydrates and fats, protein also takes the longest amount of time (and energy) for the body to digest and absorb, so it has a significant role in helping you stay full longer after a meal.

A growing body of research suggests that loss of skeletal muscle mass (sarcopenia) and strength along with fat accumulation in muscle tissue begins in your 40s. Decreasing estrogen plays a part in the process, but so does the increase of sedentary time (e.g., sitting too much) and decline of physical activity. The combination over time decreases muscle strength and power by two to three percent a year. The progression can lead to increased risk of falls, metabolic dysfunction, heart and respiratory disease, early mortality, and decreased quality of life.1

The good news is you can prevent this decline by eating high-quality protein throughout the day and exercising (prioritizing, strength, or resistance training). You can read more about the keys to getting fit after 50 and how to sit less and move more in previous blog posts. Today we’re focusing on protein as part of a nourishing eating pattern for aging well after menopause.

Why do you need protein? 

Eating adequate protein plays a role in making and preserving skeletal muscle before, during, and after menopause. Protein distribution at meals and quality have also been reviewed recently in the literature.

The current Recommended Dietary Allowance (RDA) for protein is .8 grams per kilogram (1 kg = 2.2 pounds) of body weight. The RDA is the amount of protein healthy adults need each day to prevent deficiencies. However, there has been criticism that these recommendations may not be optimal for older adults who may need additional protein to sustain muscle mass and functionality.

Experts suggest that the current protein recommendations don’t account for research showing that while older people can make as much muscle as younger individuals, they require more protein to achieve the same effect. 

How much protein do you need after menopause?

Your personal protein goals will vary based on your age, activity level, and goals. Working with a registered dietitian is the best approach for determining exactly how much protein you need each day.

However, several expert groups have advocated for 1.0 to 1.2 grams of protein per kilogram of body weight per day for healthy adults and >1.2 grams of protein per kilogram per day for older adults with acute or chronic illnesses. For example, a healthy 150-pound woman would need 68 to 82 grams of protein a day.

Is there an optimal way to consume protein?

Our skeletal muscles are in a constant state of growth and repair, so it’s essential to understand how to feed them most effectively. Studies have looked at whether it is better to consume protein throughout the day or at a single meal and suggest an even distribution throughout the day helps maximize muscle-making.

Aim for 20-25 grams of protein at each meal and pair 5 to 10 grams of protein with a fruit, vegetable, or fat as a snack.

Does protein quality matter?

As women age, the protein quality may be more critical than when younger. Protein quality impacts digestion, absorption, amino acid composition (e.g., essential amino acids that our bodies don’t make), muscle growth, and muscle repair. 

Animal and plant foods provide protein, but meat, poultry, eggs, dairy, and seafood supply all the amino acids that the body cannot produce. Gram for gram, animal proteins are better for stimulating muscle growth than plant proteins, but both can help you reach your protein goals. Plus, plant foods are packed with nutrition, like fiber, antioxidants, vitamins, and minerals beneficial for aging, without the cholesterol and saturated fats found in animal products.

Leucine, a branched-chain amino acid required to grow and repair muscle, skin, and bone, may be vital in preventing age-related sarcopenia. Plant foods tend to be lower in leucine than foods rich in animal proteins. Short-term studies have evaluated higher doses of leucine at meals with lower total protein content and seen beneficial effects on muscle growth. Therefore, try to incorporate foods like chicken, steak, pork chops, tuna, tofu, tempeh, chickpeas, lentils, navy beans, milk, yogurt, nuts, seeds, and eggs into your daily eating pattern. 

Can protein powders help you reach your protein goals?

Although we do recommend eating whole foods to meet your protein needs, there are times when protein powders can help supplement your protein goals. There are many choices on the market. 

Whey protein (from dairy) is one of the most commonly used proteins, contains all the essential amino acids, and is easily digested. Collagen is popular on the market today, but it doesn’t include all the essential amino acids. Research is still inconclusive regarding health benefits, so if you’re reaching for a supplement, you’re better off choosing an alternative to meet your protein requirements. 

Many plant-based protein powders are incomplete protein sources (lacking all essential amino acids), so you may find plant-based powders contain a mixture of plant protein sources. Plant-based options include soy, brown rice, pea, or hemp. The bottom line is to choose a protein powder you like with the least amount of additional additives. 

In summary

Eating adequate amounts of high-quality protein throughout the day, doing resistance or strength exercises at least twice a week, and reducing sedentary time are all vital for maintaining muscle mass and strength as you age.

No matter your age now is the time to assess your intake, review the quality, and look at how you distribute protein in your meals and snacks. Aging well may require tweaks to what you eat and your exercise routine to ensure you live the quality of life you desire in your later years.

Resources: 

1. McKendry J, Currier BS, Lim C, Mcleod JC, Thomas ACQ, Phillips SM. Nutritional Supplements to Support Resistance Exercise in Countering the Sarcopenia of Aging. Nutrients. 2020 Jul 10;12(7):2057. DOI: 10.3390/nu12072057. Erratum in: Nutrients. 2021 Mar 23;13(3): PMID: 32664408; PMCID: PMC7399875.

2. Roger PS, Zanella R Jr, Martins GL, et al. Strategies to Prevent sarcopenia in the Aging Process: Role of Protein Intake and Exercise. Nutrients. 2021;14(1):52. Published 2021 Dec 23. doi:10.3390/nu14010052

Eat More Fruits and Vegetables: It’s Not as Difficult as You Think

You know fruits and vegetables are essential for good health and longevity. You've heard this message since you were a youngster and adults encouraged you to eat your green beans. 

Yet only one in 10 adults eat the minimum 5-A-Day recommended amounts of fruits (1.5 to 2 cups) and vegetables (2 to 3 cups) on any given day. 

Eating a diet abundant in plants can help reduce the risk of many leading causes of illnesses and deaths, like cardiovascular disease, type 2 diabetes, some cancers, and obesity. 

No matter what eating pattern you follow—keto, paleo, vegan, Mediterranean, or plant-forward—fruits and vegetables are at the foundation of the recommendations. Eating more produce is a great place to start when trying to improve your eating habits for aging well. 

Consider what you ate yesterday. How many servings of fruits and vegetables did you eat? For most of us, we could eat more. The 5-A-Day recommendation for good health is a baseline. Research continues to suggest that eating additional servings is even better for health. 

We realize this may be old news for some, but living well and flourishing after 50 requires going back to the basics, assessing where we're at, and modifying our lifestyles to align with the recommendations for healthful eating. This is especially important as our nutrition needs change as we age.

Behavior change can be hard, especially when it comes to what we eat. We understand. We live the challenges too. Eating patterns become habits. Habits can be difficult to recognize and modify. And, even if we make changes, we often find ourselves slipping back into our old ways. 

Instead of focusing on the statistics of why you should increase fruits and vegetables in your diet, let’s focus on how to do it so you can create healthier habits for good.  

Because no matter where you're at on your fruit and vegetable consumption journey, it's not too late to look for ways to add more servings into your day to reap health and well-being benefits. 

Let's get started. 

First, assess what is getting in your way of eating more fruits and vegetables.

It's difficult to make sustained changes without identifying what is actually getting in your way. Think about what is stopping you from eating fruits and vegetables. For many people, it's the taste. Growing up, you may have been served overcooked or canned vegetables that tasted bland. Or maybe you have a habit of reaching for convenience foods for meals and snacks. Depending on your climate or location, you may even lack access to fresh produce. Whatever your barriers, write them down. Think deeply about how they impact your food choices on a day-to-day basis. The good news is that it is always easier to add something health-promoting to your lifestyle than it is to take something away. 

Next, set a goal. 

Start small and be realistic. Trying to make too big of a change at one time can set you up to fail. If you're eating three servings of fruits and vegetables a day right now, can you add one more serving every day this week? If you're doing well on eating enough fruit but not veggies, set a goal to substitute a veggie for a snack each day. Write your plan down and post it somewhere you can see it every day. Use your goal to make a plan for the week. For example, you may have to modify your grocery list or adjust your weekly meal plan. 

Be adventurous.

Take a look at your plate. Are you eating a variety of fruits and vegetables every day or unintentionally limiting yourself to just a few? Different fruits and vegetables deliver specific nutrients and therefore promote various health benefits. Aim to choose a variety of dark leafy greens, red and orange veggies, cruciferous veggies (broccoli, cauliflower, Brussels sprouts, or cabbage), berries, mushrooms, tomatoes, onions, and garlic daily.

If you're looking for additional ideas for adding fruits and vegetables to your day, join us for Rumblings' Fruit & Veggie Challenge. Together we're committing to increasing our intake, enhancing the variety of choices we make every day, being more adventurous in trying new types of fruits and vegetables, experimenting in how we prepare them, and supporting each other along the way. You can download tips to get started and follow Rumblings Media on Facebook and Instagram to be inspired. 

Track your progress.

Writing down your goals and progress helps you focus on overcoming your barriers, prioritize your intentions, stay motivated, and celebrate your successes. Putting specific goals in writing and then visualizing successfully achieving them is associated with a greater likelihood of reaching them. Plus, it helps you be consistent, stay on track, and recognize your progress. Writing down your goals and checking your progress is worth the effort. 

Be aware of how you feel.

It's essential to recognize how you feel when you eat more fruits and vegetables and how you feel when achieving your daily goals. Recognizing positive progress impacts your confidence in your ability to make a lasting change. How we feel often dictates what we do more than knowing something is healthy for us, so make sure you're intentionally focusing on how you feel. Write down how you feel physically from eating healthfully, and how you feel about achieving your goals and making progress. 

See yourself as a role model. 

It's not what we say, but most often what we do that influences the behaviors of others. Think of yourself as a plant-eating role model to your kids, nieces, nephews, grandkids, neighbors, girlfriends, or partner. Not only will this positively influence others' behaviors, but it will also make it easier for you to be consistent and sustain your fruit and vegetable eating patterns. For example, talking about the great taste of vegetables helps you motivate others to give them a try.

Believe in yourself!

Self-efficacy is your belief or confidence in your ability to succeed in a particular situation. It plays a role in how you feel about yourself and how you think and act. Believing in yourself will help you achieve your goals. Believe that you have the knowledge, skills, motivation, and willpower to overcome your barriers, be consistent, and sustain your new fruit and vegetable eating behaviors for the long term. Tracking your progress can provide an external motivator until you have established a solid internal sense of self-efficacy of changing your behaviors.

Celebrate your success. 

Changing behaviors is challenging, especially when adding additional fruits and vegetables to your eating plan. When you reach your goals, celebrate! Tell others about your achievements. You did the hard work and deserve the accolades. Your success will motivate others to join you in your new healthy habits!

Living well as you age will take work. It's worth it. Commit to eating more fruits and vegetables to flourish after 50. 

Join us in celebrating National Nutrition Month as we challenge ourselves to eat more fruits and vegetables, support one another, and get healthier as a community. Download our free Fruit & Veggie Challenge Tips and follow Rumblings Media on Facebook and Instagram for support, sharing successes, and discussing challenges. 

Together we RUMBLE! 

Is your favorite chocolate the best choice for your health? Find out 4 ways to check.

The media would have you believe that eating a superfood—like chocolate— will ensure you live a long healthy life. 

Sounds good, but unfortunately, when consumed as part of an eating pattern containing mostly processed or ultra-processed foods, no food has superpowers. 

So-called superfoods are nutrient-dense choices (a good thing) that should be consumed regularly as part of an overall healthful eating pattern. 

Dark chocolate is often on the “superfood” list. We love that! 

But, there is a lot of confusion and misinformation surrounding the health benefits, type, and how to choose chocolate that’s better for you. 

The Cacao Bean

Chocolate is produced from the cacao bean and goes through steps of fermentation, drying, roasting, nib grinding, refining, conching, and tempering to make the cocoa, chips, chunks, and bars you find in the grocery stores. Many brands are available, but not all offer the same benefits. 

The Benefits of Chocolate

Chocolate is rich in polyphenols—plant micronutrients packed with anti-inflammatory, antioxidant, and other potential health benefits. Studies suggest that chocolate's polyphenols, such as flavonoids, contribute to improved blood pressure, blood lipid levels, heart disease risk, cognition, and potentially skin health. However, a recent literature review on healthy adults and the effects of chocolate intake only supported a positive association between consumption and improved lipid levels (triglycerides).  

No matter the extent of the health benefits, the reality is most everyone loves chocolate! 

As with any food, when choosing what to buy or eat, you should select foods with the highest nutritional value.

How to Choose the Healthiest Chocolate

The polyphenol content of chocolate varies based on raw ingredients and types of processing.  There are general rules to remember to ensure you get the best health benefits when eating chocolate.

1. Choose dark chocolate with a minimum of 70% cocoa content. Dark chocolate can be 50-90% cocoa solids, cocoa butter, and sugar. The higher percentage of cocoa indicates a higher concentration of polyphenols than chocolate with a lower cocoa percentage. It is also a clue that there is less sugar in the bar. The higher the cocoa content, the better! In comparison, milk and white chocolate are only required to contain 10% and 20% cocoa, respectively, so it’s best to avoid or limit them as they’re mostly sugar and have little nutrition. 

2. Check the ingredient list. Good quality chocolate contains only cocoa solids/powder, cocoa butter, and sugar/sweetener. Ensure sugar or other sweetener is not listed first on the ingredients list. Skip chocolate with added butterfat, milk, trans fat, vegetable oils, artificial flavors or colors, and emulsifiers (e.g., lecithin).

3. Ensure your chocolate has not been Dutch or alkali processed by checking the ingredient list. Meant to give the chocolate a smoother mouthfeel and less bitter taste, it degrades the health benefits of cocoa. 

4. Choose Fair-Trade and organic chocolate whenever possible. Fair-Trade will ensure the cacao bean farmer earns a fair price for the product. Choosing organic chocolate will reduce exposure to pesticides, herbicides, and other artificial chemicals while ensuring a high phenol content. 

Enjoy Dark Chocolate in Moderation

Studies suggest adults may experience health benefits from eating one or two squares of dark chocolate daily. Chocolate is primarily fat, sugar, and calorie-dense, so moderation is critical for good health. Limit your serving size to 1-2 ounces (30-50 grams) daily. 

The foods you eat can significantly impact your feelings, overall health, and quality of life as you age. 

Learning to choose foods that are nutrient-dense and delicious is vital. The more you enjoy healthful foods, the more you’re likely to reach for them again. 

Rest assured, a square of decadent dark chocolate can be a part of your healthy aging-well eating plan. 

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2022 Galentine’s Day Gift Guide

Let’s celebrate our favorite midlife women on Valentine’s (or Galentine’s) Day with a gift made or curated by women!

There has never been a better time to shop and support women-owned small businesses.

Isadore Nut Company

Isadore Nut Company makes award-winning snacks and gifts that are more than just delicious and good for your body. They also ensure half their staff is people with disabilities. The others are women, people of color, and immigrants. They give people the chance to learn new skills and accomplish their goals by giving them a job.

Bolton Bees

Give a gift of good health and sustainability—honey. Bees are responsible for pollinating ⅓ of the world’s food supply, including many fruits and vegetables that are important to a healthy diet. Honey is a natural sweetener with nutritional benefits, but it’s also critical to the existence of honey bees, which are in turn essential to our health. Gift natural honey straight from Bolton Bees Beekeeper, Chiara Bolton.  Shop location-specific, solar-produced, or custom-label honey. 

Their gift to you is free shipping on orders over $14. Code: RUMBLINGS

Gaderian Wines

Gaderian Wines is a women-owned winery and wine you can drink with your friends and family around the table, firepit, picnic blanket, or living room. Celebrate these women with the woman in your life by sharing a bottle of Gaderian wine.

Chef Robin Asbell

Robin Asbell is an author, educator, and natural foods chef who creates luscious, feel-good food. Treat the food lover in your life to a new cookbook for inspiration or a virtual cooking class for fun times with friends.

Ear Things by Laura Wolovitch

Handcrafted jewelry utilizing new, recycled, and vintage materials. Shop Ear Things By Laura Wolovitch.

Laura Stamper Designs

Art jewelry by Laura Stamper Designs is described as the antidote for ordinary. Laura has been creating one-of-a-kind pieces for 29 years. You can find her jewelry on her website or Etsy.

SHExclusive by Susan Horowitz

Find Minnesota jewelry designer Susan Horowitz’s designs at one of her Etsy sites, SHExclusive or Minnesota Stoned.

LaurenErickaDesigns

We confess these handcrafted clutches are one of our favorite gifts to give and receive. They are perfect for a casual lunch or date night, but we also use them for cords, make-up, and other miscellaneous items. They are a must-have go-to accessory! You can shop designs here and here.

Nani Nalu Beachwear Botique

Trying on swimsuits has never been a positive experience for either of us until we found Nani Nalu Beachwear Boutique. Rumblings women have described the unique in-store or virtual shopping experiences as "life-changing.” 

Give the gift of a unique shopping experience to your friend, sister, daughter, wife, or mother by making an in-person appointment and purchasing a gift card for a new suit or other pieces of resort wear or a gift card to the online experience called SUITCASE. Get started here.

Kirtonized

Founded by Pam Kirton, an award-winning artist and illustrator, and Saeteesh, a model and entrepreneur, Kirtonized is a unique one-of-a-kind clothing gift. Contact Pam and Saeteesch by DMing them on Instagram at @kirtonized to co-design a custom gift. 

ATELIER957

ATELIER957 is a women's fashion boutique offering hand-picked clothing and accessories from small design houses worldwide. They believe in being chic, flattering, and unique at every age, size, & shape.

Monique Maxwell

Inspirational clothing with a deeper purpose embodies what the woman in your life believes. Find motivational t-shirts, tank tops, sweatshirts, flannels, and more by Monique Maxwell.

Grethen House

Grethen House has been at the forefront of introducing cutting-edge fashion to Minneapolis since 1990. They showcase a thoughtfully curated collection of designers available locally and online that any woman would love.

ModernWell

ModernWell is a women-centered collaborative workspace that balances independent spirit with holistic well-being, championing a one-of-a-kind, work-like community. Membership in a well-being-focused women’s co-working space in your community is a great gift.

Kula Yoga

Kula Yoga is an all-inclusive, woman-run, boutique yoga studio providing in-person, streaming, and 24-hour playback yoga classes, workshops, private lessons, and retreats for all fitness levels. Classes range from high-intensity conditioning classes or open flow vinyasa classes to restorative classes to help you gain flexibility and relax. Kula Yoga specializes in safe, results-oriented instruction with a keen focus on physical alignment and spirituality. Give the gift of movement in an enviroment that allows women to explore and deepen a yoga practice in fresh and exciting ways.

Rhythm For Living Life Coaching

Help someone you love transform fears into compassion for being good enough as she is and find support for her to dare to become what she desires with life coaching sessions from Shelly Melrose from Rhythm For Living.

The Scout Guide

Do your female friends or family members have an upcoming trip or simply enjoy seeking new and exciting local hot spots? The Scout Guide connects people with local businesses, entrepreneurs, and others in more than 60 U.S. cities that both locals and travelers should know about.

Lip Esteem

Tameka Jones helps women feel good one tube at a time—lipstick, that is. Lip Esteem is a new cosmetic brand born out of pure ambition and passion. With more than 25 shades, the Lip Esteem look is plant-based, gluten-free, and cruelty-free, and full of life and vibrancy!

House of Colour

Personal stylists help any woman look fabulous and radiate confidence in the colors and shapes that suit her best. Check out the consultant directory to find a House of Colour stylist in your area.

Empowering Books

Between Grit and Grace: The Art of Being Feminine and Formidable by Sasha Shillcutt, MD

Her Path Forward: 21 Stories of Transformation and Inspiration Edited by Julie Burton and Chris Olsen

Notes from the Rocket by Christine Mason Miller

Unlocked: How Empowered Women Empower Women by Jane Finette

Women-owned businesses represent a critical part of economic and business growth. And, studies show that women reinvest up to ninety percent of their income in their families and communities. We hope you’ll join us this holiday season and throughout the year in supporting and lifting up amazing and inspiring entrepreneurs, makers, and small businesses by shopping female-owned whenever possible!

Are you inspired to start a new hobby, volunteer position, or career? Check out our most-read 2021 blog post-Discover How to Make Work and Life Transitions After 50.

Take Steps to Reignite Yourself After 50

In March 2018, we planned a girls’ trip to New York City with another friend. We were working in executive positions in different cities at the time. It was going to be a long weekend filled with laughs, good food, and adventures. 

The trip was all that, but it was also a turning point for us upon reflection. Our long conversations over wine were consumed with talk about burnout, the challenges of managing people, abuse in the workplace, and whether we were living our best lives. We needed this time to decompress and deeply share our challenging experiences and process these with other like-minded women in the same life stage. 

We recognized our careers were at a tipping point. Was the goal to keep climbing the career ladder at the expense of our personal lives, social lives, and families? By the second glass of wine, the conversations dove more deeply into our dreams, desires, and how we wanted to live the next half of our lives. Each of us expressed a longing for something more than the current state. At the end of the weekend, we realized we all needed to make different types of changes to move in the direction of our dreams. The spark was lit in New York City. 

Fast forward to 2020. We now lived in the same city and met regularly to envision Rumblings. We knew we weren’t alone facing midlife career, personal, and family transitions. We heard from other women our age who were struggling with the same challenges. 

The common thread we were all experiencing was an internal RUMBLING that something needed to change to live our best lives through midlife and beyond. 

The change is different for everyone. For some, it’s a career change, to start a business, or leap past fear and take on a new challenging position. For others, it’s traveling more, moving to a new city, finding new rewarding volunteer opportunities, or creating a life that aligns more closely with personal values.

Whatever your dreams are for reinvention, go for them. We’ve never looked back, and even with the ups and downs of starting a business, we know we’re on the right path—slower than we hoped, yet moving in the right direction. 

These six actions helped us leap past our fears to start creating the life we envisioned.

Embrace a learning mindset. We thought we needed to know everything about starting a business for too long before we leaped. After a year of talking about beginning, we realized we had to stop talking about it and do it. In July 2020, we launched our website and built a community through social media. The most important thing we needed was an open and learning mindset.

The reality is you’ll never be fully ready, know everything, or have the perfect plan. Be willing to leap and learn. Ask questions of others who have reinvented themselves. Learn from their experiences. Open up to learning from women younger and older than you. 

Leap past fear. Change is scary, but what’s more frightening is living a life not aligned with your values and dreams. It was challenging to start something new, put ourselves out there, not know whether midlife women would engage with us, and not feel perfectly ready when we did. And, the fear creeps in regularly when we try something new (like producing a fashion show!) or discuss something that feels vulnerable (showing our faces or sharing our personal stories).

But, the rewards have come on the other side of fear. So leap, friends, leap!

Forgive each other and ourselves. When you forge into something new, you’ll make mistakes. We certainly have —lots of them, to be honest. Early on, we made a pact to accept that we will make mistakes, laugh at them together, support each other through them, and move on quickly. This pact has worked for us and has helped us realize mistakes are our lessons, they’re inevitable, and they’re part of the process of living forward.

Be kind and forgive yourself and others as you move along your path.

Ask for support and be supportive. Reinvention takes support. We have called on friends and family to support our efforts to build Rumblings. In return, we make an effort to promote other midlife women reinventing themselves. These women have taught us so much as we’ve learned their whys for reinvention, seen their actions, and witnessed their successes.

Don’t be afraid to ask for support. Share your dreams and audacious goals. Ask other like-minded midlifers for help.

Be consistent. Consistency has been our biggest lesson and the action that continues to move us towards our goals. It sounds too easy, but in reality, it can be challenging. We need to remind ourselves frequently to break down tasks and take action every day. When we do, we see progress and change.

Change and reinvention are not easy. You have to stay focused on your why and take steps every day towards your dreams. It’s the daily steps that create progress. 

Practice self-care. To live your best life requires you to be at your best. Take care of yourself. Sleep. Eat well. Move. Meditate. Take time for yourself. For years, we put ourselves last as we built our careers, raised children, and cared for parents. We put off medical appointments, didn’t exercise, and reached for convenient food.

As we’ve built Rumblings, we’ve reprioritized ourselves alongside our ambitions. Our dreams matter. We matter. But, only we can take steps to take care of ourselves. No one can do it for us. We’ve realized that we feel better when we do this and do better.

Now is the time. Prioritize and take care of YOU. 

Reinvention is a continuous process. We’ve learned a lot and realize how far we’ve come as we reflect on that New York City weekend. We’re making progress on living the life of our dreams, and it’s exciting. We still have things we’re working on—confidence, focus, and vulnerability. We acknowledge the challenges ahead of us and reflect on these same actions as we discuss how to move past them.

It’s not too late to pursue your dreams and desires. 

Let’s reignite, reinvent, and RUMBLE through midlife together. 

Read more about how turning 50 inspired Rumblings and advice from other midlife women on how they reinvented themselves. 

5 Ways to Reinvent Your Career

​And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom - Anais Nin

Today’s midlife women came of age during an era where women were told they could have it all; family, career, and fulfilling life where they could shape their destiny and choose their path. 

Many women chose to work. Others worked out of necessity, decided to work at home, or returned to work when children were school-aged. For decades women balanced work and life, leaned in, advanced in careers, and entered their 50s thinking it would be their time. 

Midlife is a time of transition. Children are leaving the nest, careers are peaking, and there is more time to focus on what is essential. It is a life stage when men are at the peak of their careers and earning potential. However, what women encounter is a society that expects us to remain ageless. We experience gender ageism in the workplace. Regardless of our prior accomplishments, we face a society that finds countless subtle ways to tell us we’re not as relevant, not as attractive, and less deserving.

It’s natural and normal to feel unsettled with a desire to explore what’s next. These internal rumblings can also come with inner self-doubt and negative self-talk — “I’m too old,” “I don’t look like I should,” “I’m not seen or heard.” Many midlife women feel stuck even though we have decades left to work, live well,  and flourish. 

Women also describe lacking authentic and deep connection with other women, feeling burned out, exhausted, and disappointed at a time that is supposed to be the pinnacle of their lives.

Women have been trying to live up to an unrealistic standard for too long, and as a result, they feel they’re climbing a mountain but never reaching the top. Sound familiar? The good news is that you can define what will come next. You don’t have to succumb to societal norms of acceptable and how we should age. If the original path no longer contributes to how you want to live your lives, it’s time to find a new one. 

We’ve spent the last year speaking with amazing midlife women who felt that same rumbling and have reimagined their lives and reinvented themselves to design a path for themselves that is more aligned with their values. They’ve reinvigorated their careers, built businesses, or taken risks to create a life to live well and flourish. 

Read their advice and listen to your inner RUMBLING. You can take steps to align your career with your values to flourish through midlife.

Define your universal skills. You have learned many things from your prior roles as mother, sister, daughter, aunt, caretaker, homemaker, and career woman that you bring to the table. You’ve balanced many demanding tasks and been successful at them. For example, women have a unique ability to context switch. It means you can switch between multiple unrelated tasks and improvise as you do it. 

You have superb negotiation skills from your personal, volunteer, and professional lives that you can use in any situation. You have negotiated salaries, employee engagement, bedtimes for a 3-year-old, rules for teenagers, daily living capabilities with aging parents, and everything in between.

You are resilient. You’ve successfully navigated every challenge that has come your way. You know your strengths, and you’ve learned how to either overcome, mitigate, or ask for assistance in areas of weakness. 

Write down the skills you possess that are universal to any situation and how you can use them. Ask friends and family what they think your strengths are and add them to your list.

Choose your core values and purpose over societal pressure. Consider what is most important to you. What are your core beliefs? What are your values? What is most important to you in the future? 

Have those values and beliefs been aligned with your decision-making? For example, have you made career or life choices that are in line with your values and best interests, or have you made sacrifices to put the interests of others first? 

Answering these questions provides an opportunity to be thoughtful and intentional about your importance. For many women, it can be about supporting and empowering others. It can be about giving back to the community and making a difference in the lives of others. 

It’s difficult for many women to focus on putting themselves first and discount any societal norms, but it’s crucial for finding meaningful work. If this is a challenge, ask yourself what matters more than money. Those are your values. 

Dream and design your path. Consider the course that keeps you closest to your integrity, values, and goals for your life and the future. 

What are the ways you can start to move towards that? It could be making changes to your current role, seeking new employment or career, taking on a side job, or volunteering. Where can you find other like-minded people with similar interests or who you can learn from? 

Networking and establishing connections with people you don’t know well is another universal skill that women possess. It is a great place to use those skills to meet new people and hone what unique gifts you have to offer. 

We have been amazed at how willingly other women have been to spend time with other women to share ideas, knowledge and magnify the voices of other women as they endeavor to design a new path.

Living from the inside out creates a foundation of health. It takes a foundation of good health to flourish after 50. Make your health a priority. It will support your self-confidence and help you feel connected while living genuinely from the inside out. 

It’s never too late to pivot. The science around aging and lifespan is evolving. We have been amazed and inspired by all of the remarkable women we’ve met who are continually learning, growing, and changing. 

Today, women who accomplish great things are more frequently in midlife and beyond. Fear is part of the equation, but courage is the calling to find clarity and purpose, and that belief is vital in the women we’ve worked with. 

You are not alone in what you’re feeling or experiencing. 

Women want to support other women in achieving their dreams. If the women in your life don’t support your dreams, seek out those who do. 

Striving to discover your remarkable and fulfilling midlife journey ensures your process will foster purpose, belonging, joy, and gratitude. It feels good!

Embracing and stepping in the beauty, liberation, and wisdom as you move into and beyond midlife empowers other women, young and older, to do the same. By tapping into your knowledge, experience, and wisdom, you engage with others differently and bring value to the people around you. 

Together we can change the way our culture views midlife and older women. We’re excited about midlife, the new things we’ll do, the risks we’ll take, and the women we’ll meet! 

Let’s reinvent, reignite, and RUMBLE through midlife together!

10 Ways to Empower Women Right Now

Saeteesh from @saeteeshunleashed and Jennifer Cermak from @naninalubeachwear shared personal advice and stories to empower other women at our Fashion After 50 Fashion Week MN Event. Photo credit: G. Marie Images

Have you ever asked yourself, “What is one small thing I can do to start a revolution?” Jane Finette did just that during the pandemic. She felt down and overwhelmed, so she started connecting with other strong women in her network to find out how they were coping and what they were doing. Although the media headlines were dismal, she discovered empowered women doing fantastic work to support the advancement of women and girls, and their efforts did not stop during these stressful and unprecedented times. 

Talking to other women, she also found their impact did not start with a huge business plan. It began with simple, quiet, and repeatable things that they did in sisterhood. She felt these empowering stories needed to be told, so Jane summarized the lessons into her new book, Unlocked: How Empowered Women Empower Women. 

Our Rumblings community had an opportunity to have a virtual conversation with Jane to discuss our ability to influence societal change, especially when systemic and policy changes necessary to address fundamental issues of gender, age, and racial biases seem so impossible. 

She emphasized that change starts by taking one action with another person in our world. The opportunity is great, and we need to understand that we lift up all women when we help one woman. When we collectively do that as a regular practice, enough women will be standing in their full power, and systems and policy changes will follow. 

Our conversation was so rich and empowering that we wanted to share the key takeaways for women who missed it.  

How do you begin? 

Start by seeing yourself as a female activist. If you think of your actions as feminist actions, you will realize the impact goes beyond helping one dear friend or work colleague, and instead, you will recognize your simple steps are for the sake of all women. When you embrace female activism as a part of your personality and identity, you will seek ways every day to fulfill your way of being that type of person in the world.  

We’ve all had our own lived experiences as we’ve climbed the corporate ladder, raised children, taken care of aging parents, and made our way in the world. We know it hasn’t been easy, and we’re not here to claim that carving out even more time to help more women is easy either. 

However, we hope we all agree that we want a smoother path for the women—our daughters, nieces, neighbors, colleagues, etc.— coming behind us. This starts with being vulnerable, sharing your experiences—good and not so good—and asking for help when needed. 

You’re the most important person in your life. The first act of being a feminist is committing to take care of yourself first. When you make yourself a priority, you have the capacity to help other women. 

10 Keys to Unlock the Potential of All Women

1. Say yes to help another woman. Make an introduction. Have a call. Give advice when asked. 

2. Tell her she is ready! Be her cheerleader. Sometimes she just needs a gentle reminder to own her truth and claim her destiny.

3. Stand behind her. Back her up. Support her through struggles. Let her know you’re there for her. 

4. Help her help herself. Help her see everything available for her to clearly make her own choice or decision. 

5. Talk about money. Women earn less, invest less, and two-thirds of women have the potential to retire into poverty. You must get comfortable talking about money, encouraging women to ask for what they’re worth, and sharing how to invest money. 

6. Stand up for her. Support fairness, equity, and truth, especially when those principles are violated.

7. Be the example. Share your stories and personal experiences. Role model helping yourself and other women. Having empowered women as examples empowers other women. 

8. Give her confidence. Help her see her strengths, showcase her previous successes, and move past her fear. 

9. Send the elevator down. Make the journey easier for her by giving her a hand, hiring her, promoting her, or showcasing her talents.

10. Be a sister. Show up as a sister. Offer a kind word. Listen. Smile. Share a hug. 

“To empower another woman is a selfless act with untold possibilities.”

- Jane Finette

Now is the time. Get started today!

It’s all about this moment. You are ready. All that you have done before now has prepared you for this moment. You know how to put the keys to work to unlock the potential of women around you. Just begin. Start today.

Jane summed up our conversation brilliantly. “We all have everything inside us to live our fullest, and most exciting, and wild lives. We have all the wisdom from the women who came before us, and we have an incredible community of women supports. Ask for help from each other and give, receive, and keep showing up to moments like this because it’s a village; we need a village.”

If this summary has inspired you, we encourage you to buy and gift the book to all the women in your life. The proceeds from your purchases go to The Coaching Fellowship, a nonprofit organization dedicated to developing young women leaders working in the social impact space, founded by Jane and described as her life’s work. 

A foundational principle, or Rock, at Rumblings is to advocate for and inspire women around us. Read more about our Four Rocks to Flourish After 50

Together We Live Well and Flourish After 50

Thank you, friends! We are deeply grateful for you, our Rumblings' community, and we wish you a very happy, joyful, and reflective Thanksgiving day and long weekend, however you celebrate.

We’ll both be celebrating locally, but If you’re traveling this weekend, check out our Top Seven Tips for Successful Multigenerational Travel. Sometimes the biggest holiday stresses come from the expectations of family members and friends from different generations coming around the table together. Plan ahead, prepare yourself, and relish your time together. If we’ve learned anything over the last 20 months is that time together is valuable and something we won’t take for granted again.

We also plan to get out and enjoy the long weekend by doing a little shopping, decorating, and consuming lots of leftovers! Small business Saturday (November 27) is a great chance to support small local retailers in your area. We encourage you to seek out and support small women-owned businesses this holiday season. If you haven’t checked out our 2021 Holiday Gift Guide for Women which highlights gift ideas from small women-owned businesses, now is the time!

This is the time of year we prioritize time to pause, reflect, and celebrate our annual accomplishments, as well as strategize and plan for the next year. One annual ritual we’ve done individually and now as a business is setting one to three-word intention(s) for the year. Our Rumblings words for 2021 were learn, connect, and inspire. If you’ve never set your word(s) for the year, check out the process we use to choose our words. We’ll be going through this process in December to set our 2022 intentions.

We love hearing from you. One thing we’ve learned since we launched Rumblings is that many midlife women are looking for alignment between their professional or volunteer work, and their personal values. Two years ago, we were there too.

This rumbling often takes the form of wanting to start a new hobby, transition to a new job role, or jump into an entirely new career. We’ve been inspired by the midlife women we’ve met who have literally reinvented their career paths and are happier as a result. Whether you are just starting to feel a new rumbling that something needs to change or you’re ready to leap headfirst into a new career, read our most popular blog post of 2021—Discover How to Successfully Make Work and Life Transitions After 50.

Living well and flourishing after 50 is achievable! Together we thrive. Take a few moments this holiday season for you. Reflect, realign, and get ready to RUMBLE into 2022.

We look forward to RUMBLING right alongside you.

2021 Holiday Gift Guide for the Women in Your Life

After celebrating quietly amongst our immediate families in 2020, we are in the holiday spirit earlier this year, ready to shop and pick out the perfect gift for family, friends, and neighbors. 

The pandemic has been a time of deep reflection and transformation for so many women. We’re inspired by their stories and are excited to support women-owned businesses with our first annual Rumblings Women's Gift Guide featuring unique items for any woman in your life. This list was curated from recommendations from our Rumblings community, as well as from our personal experiences.

There has never been a better time to shop and support women-owned small businesses with worldwide shipping delays and sparse inventory at national retailers.

Isadore Nut Company

Isadore Nut Company makes award-winning snacks and gifts that are more than just delicious and good for your body. They also ensure half their staff is people with disabilities. The others are women, people of color, and immigrants. They give people the chance to learn new skills and accomplish their goals by giving them a job.

Bolton Bees

Give a gift of good health and sustainability—honey. Bees are responsible for pollinating ⅓ of the world’s food supply, including many fruits and vegetables that are important to a healthy diet. Honey is a natural sweetener with nutritional benefits, but it’s also critical to the existence of honey bees, which are in turn essential to our health. Gift natural honey straight from Bolton Bees Beekeeper, Chiara Bolton.  Shop location-specific, solar-produced, or custom-label honey. 

Their gift to you is free shipping on orders over $14. Code: RUMBLINGS

Gaderian Wines

Gaderian Wines is a women-owned winery and wine you can drink with your friends and family around the table, firepit, picnic blanket, or living room. Celebrate these women with the woman in your life by sharing a bottle of Gaderian wine.

Chef Robin Asbell

Robin Asbell is an author, educator, and natural foods chef who creates luscious, feel-good food. Treat the food lover in your life to a new cookbook for inspiration or a virtual cooking class for fun times with friends.

Ear Things by Laura Wolovitch

Handcrafted jewelry utilizing new, recycled, and vintage materials. Shop Ear Things By Laura Wolovitch.

Laura Stamper Designs

Art jewelry by Laura Stamper Designs is described as the antidote for ordinary. Laura has been creating one-of-a-kind pieces for 29 years. You can find her jewelry on her website or Etsy.

SHExclusive by Susan Horowitz

Find Minnesota jewelry designer Susan Horowitz’s designs at one of her Etsy sites, SHExclusive or Minnesota Stoned.

LaurenErickaDesigns

We confess these handcrafted clutches are one of our favorite gifts to give and receive. They are perfect for a casual lunch or date night, but we also use them for cords, make-up, and other miscellaneous items. They are a must-have go-to accessory! You can shop designs here and here.

Nani Nalu Beachwear Botique

Trying on swimsuits has never been a positive experience for either of us until we found Nani Nalu Beachwear Boutique. Rumblings women have described the unique in-store or virtual shopping experiences as "life-changing.” 

Give the gift of a unique shopping experience to your friend, sister, daughter, wife, or mother by making an in-person appointment and purchasing a gift card for a new suit or other pieces of resort wear or a gift card to the online experience called SUITCASE. Get started here.

Kirtonized

Founded by Pam Kirton, an award-winning artist and illustrator, and Saeteesh, a model and entrepreneur, Kirtonized is a unique one-of-a-kind clothing gift. Contact Pam and Saeteesch by DMing them on Instagram at @kirtonized to co-design a custom gift. 

ATELIER957

ATELIER957 is a women's fashion boutique offering hand-picked clothing and accessories from small design houses worldwide. They believe in being chic, flattering, and unique at every age, size, & shape.

Monique Maxwell

Inspirational clothing with a deeper purpose embodies what the woman in your life believes. Find motivational t-shirts, tank tops, sweatshirts, flannels, and more by Monique Maxwell.

Grethen House

Grethen House has been at the forefront of introducing cutting-edge fashion to Minneapolis since 1990. They showcase a thoughtfully curated collection of designers available locally and online that any woman would love.

ModernWell

ModernWell is a women-centered collaborative workspace that balances independent spirit with holistic well-being, championing a one-of-a-kind, work-like community. Membership in a well-being-focused women’s co-working space in your community is a great gift.

Kula Yoga

Kula Yoga is an all-inclusive, woman-run, boutique yoga studio providing in-person, streaming, and 24-hour playback yoga classes, workshops, private lessons, and retreats for all fitness levels. Classes range from high-intensity conditioning classes or open flow vinyasa classes to restorative classes to help you gain flexibility and relax. Kula Yoga specializes in safe, results-oriented instruction with a keen focus on physical alignment and spirituality. Give the gift of movement in an enviroment that allows women to explore and deepen a yoga practice in fresh and exciting ways.

Rhythm For Living Life Coaching

Help someone you love transform fears into compassion for being good enough as she is and find support for her to dare to become what she desires with life coaching sessions from Shelly Melrose from Rhythm For Living.

The Scout Guide

Do your female friends or family members have an upcoming trip or simply enjoy seeking new and exciting local hot spots? The Scout Guide connects people with local businesses, entrepreneurs, and others in more than 60 U.S. cities that both locals and travelers should know about.

Lip Esteem

Tameka Jones helps women feel good one tube at a time—lipstick, that is. Lip Esteem is a new cosmetic brand born out of pure ambition and passion. With more than 25 shades, the Lip Esteem look is plant-based, gluten-free, and cruelty-free, and full of life and vibrancy!

House of Colour

Personal stylists help any woman look fabulous and radiate confidence in the colors and shapes that suit her best. Check out the consultant directory to find a House of Colour stylist in your area.

Empowering Books

Between Grit and Grace: The Art of Being Feminine and Formidable by Sasha Shillcutt, MD

Her Path Forward: 21 Stories of Transformation and Inspiration Edited by Julie Burton and Chris Olsen

Notes from the Rocket by Christine Mason Miller

Unlocked: How Empowered Women Empower Women by Jane Finette

Women-owned businesses represent a critical part of economic and business growth. And, studies show that women reinvest up to ninety percent of their income in their families and communities. We hope you’ll join us this holiday season and throughout the year in supporting and lifting up amazing and inspiring entrepreneurs, makers, and small businesses by shopping female-owned whenever possible!

Are you inspired to start a new hobby, volunteer position, or career? Check out our most-read 2021 blog post-Discover How to Make Work and Life Transitions After 50.

Top 7 Tips for Successful Multigenerational Travel

I recently returned from a daughter, mother, grandmother trip to visit my son at Michigan State University (MSU). For almost 20 years, the three of us have intentionally planned trips to learn, connect, and seek adventure together. 

The trips have ranged from visiting the American Girl store in Chicago, a long weekend in Door County, week-long getaways in Michigan to two weeks in Italy and France during my daughter’s time studying abroad.  

We’ve had great times and created wonderful memories, but we've also learned how to travel well together. It’s not always easy when there is a 57 year age difference. 

Over time, and through trial-and-error, we’ve discovered seven strategies that work for us for successful multigenerational travel. 

1. Choose a Destination with a Personal Connection

My mom (grandma) grew up in Michigan. I was born in Michigan, lived there until I was two years old, and spent summers in my youth traveling back to Michigan to visit my grandparents. It’s been fun to intentionally plan trips back to Michigan to stir up memories and reminisce. Our trip to MSU was to visit my son at college, but also for my mom to share her stories of being a student there too. 

As you plan your trip, think about the purpose of traveling together. Is there a destination that would be fun for everyone, but also have a special connection for one or more of your family members? Do you want to create memories for your children? Do you want your children to get to know your parents and their life stories better? Craft an itinerary that fulfills the purpose for everyone.

2. Plan Activities You All Can Enjoy 

Given our age differences, choosing activities that we all enjoy can be challenging. Adventure sports, long strenuous hikes, or even hours spent in a museum don’t bring the same joy for all of us. However, there are two things we can all agree on—our love for local culture and food. We seek out innovative restaurants, local markets, or unique local boutiques while also stopping by meaningful locations during our trips. 

During our recent weekend away, we drove by the house my parents built (my first home) and the hospital where I was born. My mom enjoyed seeing the changes in these places over time, and my daughter and I enjoyed hearing her relive her memories from her time in Lansing. 

Planning activities with a mixture of new and old experiences creates excellent conversation and rich new memories together.

Have a conversation before your trip and identify what type of activities each person would enjoy. Consider each traveler's passions. Can you include that type of activity into your itinerary for everyone to enjoy? 

Do your research. We’ve found unique activities via travel books, blogs, and most recently, Tik Tok and Instagram influencers. Keep your mind open! Some of our most memorable experiences lately have come from ideas discovered by my daughter through social media. 

3. Let the Young Navigate

One of the biggest roadblocks we have tackled is how to get from A to Z. I have frequently felt stuck in the middle of a map reader (my mom) and an online Google Maps expert (my daughter). It came to a head on our trip to Europe four years ago. After living in France for six months, my daughter had Google Maps iPhone navigation down to a science. She could map us on any type of public transportation — trains, buses, and subways —in no time flat. Growing up using paper maps, my mom felt lost without seeing the big picture of where we were going to ensure we were going in the right direction. She would get anxious and frustrated with my daughter and me for not slowing down so she could review the map before deciding which direction we should go. Within a few hours, I realized I had to help my mom let go of control, trust her granddaughter's navigation skills, and be ok with following her lead so we could travel together without angst. 

In our experience, letting the young navigate creates less friction and gets us where we are going more quickly. This is not always easy for the older adults in the group who have been reliant on paper maps for travel. Our advice is to discuss this before your trip, review a paper map before your day begins, and encourage older travelers to trust, relax, and let go of the need to navigate during the day. 

4. Pack Light

A travel mantra I heard over and over growing up was never to pack more than you can carry. This has been critically important to remember during our multigenerational trips. We pack light and do not worry about wearing the same outfit multiple times. It keeps us mobile and allows us to quickly help one another when needed. 

We recommend traveling with a lightweight roller bag with 360-degree wheels and a backpack that can easily fit under the airplane seat and be light enough to carry while exploring new areas. Traveling light helps everyone in your group feel in control of their belongings, move more efficiently, and stay together during your trip. 

5. Listen

While walking the MSU campus, my mom started reminiscing about her time there from 1958 to 1962. Hearing her stories about being required to wear heels and suits to the football games, wear skirts to classes (women were not allowed to wear pants), and be in her room by curfew made Ella and I realize how far women have come in two generations. It made us appreciate the challenges women have fought to overcome so that our lives are better. 

Listening to stories from the generations ahead of you can help you better appreciate your life and opportunities while gaining new respect and appreciation for their past. This experience can create new connections between all travelers. 

Ask questions and listen. There is nothing like learning about someone in the place they lived or through an experience they had as a child as they relive it as an adult with you. It’s also fun for the adults to see a place through the eyes of younger generations for a fresh take on a familiar place.

6. Slow down

Let’s face it, our travel speed changes as we age. As my daughter, mother, and I have traveled together, we have had to adjust our expectations, pace, and patience as we have gotten older. We don't move at the same speed or schedule as many activities into a day as we once did.

Technology has added travel challenges. Mobile tickets, online check-ins, and QR codes can feel overwhelming when a person in your group is less comfortable with these new processes. Navigating technology-enhanced travel naturally takes more time for anyone not as familiar with digital changes. 

Yet, slowing down has benefits. There is more time to enjoy the scenery, take in the sounds around you, and appreciate the moment you're in instead of anticipating the next activity or sight to see.

It’s unrealistic to expect your multigenerational travel companions to all move at the same speed. Be realistic. Modify your expectations before you travel. Take the time to help others in your group who move more slowly. Walk with them. Help them with their luggage and work with them to navigate new technology. You’ll build new bonds and nurture a new relationship.

7. Be Grateful

My daughter, mother, and I are grateful for our time together traveling and the memories we’ve created. We understand that we’re lucky to have these opportunities. We have years of travel memories together. This past weekend, we added to those as we ate gelato for breakfast, wandered local boutiques, introduced my mom to Lululemon leggings and kombucha, shared memories over coffee and wine, and walked miles and miles around campus.  

Whether you are planning multigenerational trips with family or friends, consider these seven strategies for success.

What did we miss? What has worked for you and your family? Let us know. 

Are you wondering what to pack when you travel? Check out our favorite tips and items in our Jetsetter's Guide: Master the Art of Savvy Packing.

13 Ways to Transition to Autumn Using a Chinese Medicine Approach

Jalashree working with a guest.

Guest Blog: Written By Jalashree Pradhan, Licensed Acupuncturist and Reiki practitioner.

“There is a necessary wisdom in the give-and-take of nature, its quiet agreements and search for balance. There is an extraordinary generosity”- Suzanne Simard.

As the last warm days of our late summer wind down and the busy Yang energy of summer recedes, the transition to autumn begins. The days are shorter, the sun sets earlier, and the mornings are cool and crisp. Observing nature in transition during the autumn season, we begin to prepare for more dormant days ahead. Leaves turn and begin their journey back to the earth. Fruits fall, seeds dry, and tree sap returns to the roots. The natural world is preparing for the cold, dark, and challenging months ahead. We, too, must make our preparations at this time. We stock up on colorful and still abundant fruits and vegetables, dry, preserve, and store foods, and rediscover our forgotten sweaters and wool socks—the summer Yang energy transitions to the slower, quiet, and introspective Yin energy during this time.

Welcome to autumn.

The philosophy of Chinese medicine teaches us to live in reciprocal harmony with the natural world’s cycles so that we can maximize our health and wellbeing.

The Five Elements:

According to Chinese medicine, the Five Elements, or 5 phases, are a method by which we can explain the manifestations of this world. Wood, Fire, Earth, Metal, and Water help us define our relationship to the physical world, the spiritual world, and bodies.

In Chinese medicine, autumn is represented by the Metal element and is related to the Lungs and Large intestine organ systems. The Metal element governs mind, organization, order, stability, an eye for beauty/refinement, and its ability to come together and let go. It relates to the color white. The body tissue it connects to is the skin and body hair. The sensory organ is the nose. We experience this element through a yearning for spicy, pungent, and somewhat sour foods.

When the Metal element is not balanced, we may experience excessive grief and sadness or have difficulty letting go and need control. When in balance, we experience a natural sense of acceptance of the transition of this world. We can let go with grace and grieve appropriately, recognizing change as a natural transformative process.

The Lungs and Large intestine organ systems include the nose, throat, skin, and digestive systems, designed to protect us from harmful external factors. The Qi that circulates on the surface is called Defensive Qi, “Wei Qi.” This encompasses the Western concept of superficial immunity and protects us from seasonal illnesses like colds, flu, and allergies. The Lungs are most susceptible to wind, cold, and dryness at this time of year. If Wei Qi is strong and in balance, we can generally maintain health and avoid illness. If our Lungs are out of balance due to overwork, lack of sleep, or improper diet, we are more likely to suffer from “lung conditions.”  

Common symptoms associated with Lung and Large intestine system imbalances are allergies, asthma, breathing problems, constipation/diarrhea, cough, excessive grief, indifference, sadness, sinus infections, sinus headaches, shortness of breath, susceptibility for colds/flu, skin issues, pain in shoulders, elbows, and lower limbs.

Autumn is an opportune time to nourish these vulnerable systems and balance your overall energy and immune system.

There are many things you can do to transition between seasons and embrace autumn:

Stay Warm - Weather changes quickly during this dry season, so wear extra layers. Keeping a scarf around the neck and chest offers additional protection and makes a bold fashion statement. According to Chinese medicine, wind penetrates through the back of the neck and brings environmental pathogens that can lead to vulnerability to catching an illness. Cover up and protect your skin.

Practice Slowing Down - Exercise is essential at this time, but as the world around us slows down, we should reflect on the pace and not run from it. Try calmer forms of exercise – yoga, Qi Gong, nature walks, taking in the beauty of color changes of the trees, or watching a sunrise/sunset. Seek inspiration and beauty all around you. Embrace the transition.

Share activities with family and friends like raking leaves, foraging mushrooms, apple picking, and bringing the garden to a temporary lull. Take time to watch the beauty and changes as they happen all around you. These are relaxing, connected forms of mental and emotional exercise as we say goodbye to one season and welcome another.

Protect Your Sleep - Days are shorter, and nights are longer. More hours of the day are Yin (dark, quiet, cool, and inactive). Try following nature’s lead by going to bed a little earlier. Make sure to turn off screens and keep the bedroom cool and dark. Going to bed and waking up at regular hours will help restore and repair your body and mind.

Incorporate The Bounty Of The Harvest - Move away from summer’s cold, raw foods to more warm and heartier foods such as soups, stews, sautés, stir-fry, and roasts. Rich and dense foods such as winter squashes, winter peas, broccoli, beets, carrots, cauliflower, red cabbage, sweet potatoes, yams, and dark leafy greens support and help keep the digestive system strong to keep the lung system protected. Seasonal fruits such as cranberries, figs, pears, apples, persimmons, and chestnuts support the Lung and Large intestine organ systems. The season provides us much to be grateful for and acknowledge.

It’s best to avoid rich and fatty foods in autumn. They are difficult to digest and can produce phlegm that blocks the Lung Qi. Also, in Chinese medicine, excessive intake of fruits, juices, and dairy can produce mucus, causing coughs and phlegm, so best to limit these to protect the lungs.

Say Yes To Sour/Pungent Flavors - Add sour foods into your diet (olives, pickles, sauerkraut, lemons, leeks, tart apples, etc.) to help hold the Qi within us. It is wise to add pungent aromatic seasonings such as garlic, ginger, coriander, chili, mustard seed, cinnamon, sage, thyme, and rosemary. They improve Qi and blood circulation and support fluid balance to release mucus. Do use all these sour and pungent spices in moderation to not deplete the Qi and Yin. To support the Lung and Large intestine membranes and get rid of mucous, add fenugreek, marshmallow root, flaxseeds, and kombu seaweed.

Add White - The color white corresponds to the Metal energy. Incorporating white foods such as onions, garlic, ginger, cauliflower, cabbage, bamboo shoots, radishes, turnips, daikon, horseradish, parsnips, mushrooms, apples, pears, almonds, cashews, egg whites all help support the Large intestine to eliminate properly. Also, add fiber-rich whole grains and legumes such as rice, oats, amaranth, white beans, soybeans, and white lima beans.  Do avoid white refined flours and sugars. Wearing white may also bring a sense of lightness.

Cultivate Simplicity - It is time to bring the energy more inward and shed things and activities to help simplify daily life. Consider how to live simply, consciously. Try the Marie Kondo approach to organizing closets and drawers and get rid of things you no longer need; it may help you feel a sense of lightness. Autumn is an excellent time to let go of emotional baggage as well. Clear old resentments, foster compassion and forgiveness, and shed the baggage of unprocessed emotions—all with loving attention and care.

Pause to Breathe - The Lung is the Yin organ of the Metal element and brings Qi, a breath of life, to mind, body, and spirit. Shallow and rapid breaths can reduce oxygen and increase stress/tension and deplete the immune function. Remember to pause and take a mindful breath in from your nose, and exhale slowly from your mouth throughout your day. This will help calm the mind and nourish the Lung system to stay healthy.

Observe and Reflect - This time of the year provides a perfect time to watch the Yang energy transition to Yin energy. It is time to slow down. As the days grow shorter, we may feel anxious or melancholic, saying goodbye to the warmer weather. As beautiful as the changing season can be, the closing days of the year can remind us of our cycles and mortality and helps us to live in alignment with what is greater than ourselves.

If we can be persuaded to put aside our fears and accept all that is happening around us and become a part of the larger life cycle, grief can be experienced as a cleansing emotion.

It is essential to make time to cry and grieve. The sound of the Metal element is weeping. The process of letting go, releasing old patterns and unresolved grief will allow us to move with courage and integrity to clarity, recovery, and finally, acceptance.

Incorporate Essential Oils - The Lungs are related to the nose and our sense of smell. When the Lung system is balanced, we can smell all five smells. Deeply inhale essential oils like rosemary, niaouli, eucalyptus, fir, or peppermint to open and clear the nasal passages, and cinnamon, clove, and lemon, in addition, can help boost immunity. Essential oils of lavender, orange, neroli, ylang-ylang, chamomile, and blue tansy help calm mild anxiety, worry, and stress.

My favorite essential oil blends that I carry at my clinic are from Snow Lotus: Vir-Away, Sinus Clear, Sweet Dreams, Stress Release, and Worry-Free.

Add Chinese Herbal Remedies - Chinese herbal remedies are a time-tested and effective support for the immune system and treating cold and flu. They can also be used to support recovery from various long-haul symptoms of COVID-19. It is best to consult with your East Asian Medicine practitioner or me for the appropriate formula for you.

These are a few formulas that can be safely added to your daily regimen as prevention and maintain health through the autumn and winter seasons:

• Host Defense Immunity Comprehensive/ Stamets 7: a powerful blend of medicinal mushrooms for supporting general immunity

• Griffo Base Camp: classical Chinese herbal formula with medicinal mushrooms in teas and tinctures support seasonal immunity

• Dao Labs (Mpls) Immunity Support: classical herbal blend can be added to your daily autumn regimen

Balance with Acupressure Points - Acupoints can be massaged rotating clockwise for 30 seconds to balance the immune system and support the digestive function.

• CV 17-Sea of Tranquility is on the center of the chest at the 4th rib space and in front of the thymus gland, opens the chest, relaxes the diaphragm, supports the immune system, and brings a sense of calm and ease to the whole body, mind, and heart.

• LU2-Cloud Gate is on the upper chest, below the front of the shoulder and end of the collar bone. This point will help with cough, asthma, and pain in the shoulders, lift the cloud of sadness and grief, and allow brightness and warmth to enter by supporting the Metal element.

• TB5-Outer Gate is on the backside of the arm, about three fingers above your wrist crease between the two tendons. This point powerfully reduces inflammation and balances the fluids of the whole body. Also, the Outer gate allows for a feeling of warmth and connection from others.

Restore with Preventative Care - It is more important than ever to stay healthy and balanced, as well as protect and strengthen your immune system. It is beneficial to schedule a seasonal tune-up with acupuncture, cupping, and Chinese herbs to address allergies, digestive issues, long haul COVD-19 symptoms, sadness and grieving that need compassionate attention, and so much more. A holistic, individualized plan can be developed to support and meet your unique needs. Schedule your next visit by booking an appointment here. 

You can schedule in-person and telehealth appointments with Jalashree using the link above.

Check out our upcoming facial roller event with Jalashree on November 8, in Minneapolis.

5 Lessons from A Fashion After 50 Event to Inspire Midlife Women

The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman is seen in her eyes because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides...the beauty of a woman only grows with passing years. 

~Audrey Hepburn

Over 200 midlife women attended a Rumblings’ Fashion Week MN event. It was an enormous undertaking and a departure from our previous events and outside our self-defined expertise.

It is an understatement to say that we felt out of our comfort zones. Creating an event was familiar; however, the idea of creating a fashion event was very new. We’re not fashionistas and we have the same questions about style and dressing during midlife as many other women. 

We, too, have fashion biases like believing we’re too old to wear something or our clothing choices must hide certain parts of our body we’re uncomfortable with. Yet, we believe how we dress embodies how we feel about ourselves, and living inside out is a part of living authentically. 

Our mission at Rumblings is to create a community of women who come together to learn, connect, and inspire one another to flourish after 50. A Fashion After 50 event was a perfect way to create a new opportunity to personally step outside of our comfort zone and bring midlife women together. 

Planning the event and meeting amazing new women was fun and exciting. The immediate excitement of the event has ebbed. What hasn’t faded is the energy and new way of thinking and self-discovery from doing something different, a bit scary, but a lot of fun!

Aside from the new friends we met and all we learned about fashion, business, and ourselves, several takeaways will inspire us as we plan future events. We hope it will inspire you to continue to learn, connect, and empower other women so that we can all flourish in midlife.

Women empower women when they come together and share their personal stories—especially midlife women. Over twenty-one, female entrepreneurs and small business owners came together to create this event. Most have reimagined their lives during midlife, taken a giant leap to jump into something new, and created the life they want. 

By far, the most inspiring part of the evening was hearing stories of midlife women reinventing themselves, starting new businesses, and creating a life where they flourish. It's not too late to chase your passions. We LOVED hearing their stories and all of them inspired us. 

What is your story that you can share with others? Who do you know who has reinvented themselves in midlife by changing careers, starting a business, or taking up a new hobby? Let’s start sharing our stories. Empowered women, empower women. 

Community is important. Moving into midlife can create feelings of isolation and loneliness for many women. Coming together in a community with other midlife women can help by knowing other women experience similar challenges, stresses, and transitions.

Whether we’re rethinking our careers or our personal lives, midlife women especially need deeper connections with other women in the same life stage. Midlife transitions are messy. There is something deeply personal about acknowledging our collective experiences with one another. 

That’s why we created Rumblings-a community of women who come together to learn, connect, and inspire one another. You can get involved by signing up for our email, attending events, or simply engaging on social media. Together we can support and encourage one another to thrive after 50. 

Together we create energy. When midlife women come together, we can energize a room. The past two years have been difficult. We’ve been managing careers, midlife transitions, balancing caring for family, neighbors, and older parents while navigating a pandemic and constant uncertainty. At the event, we witnessed the collective energy of women coming together, and it was magical! 

We can help one another think about how we want to shape the remainder of the second part of our lives. We are in unchartered territory in more significant numbers than women that came before us. Our mothers collectively may not have had the same options, life experiences, or financial independence as a norm that we have available to us. Sharing inspires. And, inspired women create energy. We must continually lift up one another to navigate midlife together, reimage what it means to thrive in our primetime, and have tons of fun while doing it!

Find your women. Share, support, and let go. Enjoy this fantastic time in your life.

Attendees engage with a few of the pop-up market vendors. All female-owned small businesses.

Support midlife women-owned businesses.  There will be 1.1 billion postmenopausal women by 2025. Yet, few companies market or create things specifically for our demographic beyond societal norms created by others to pressure us to be ageless, beautiful, or thin. We’ve all felt at one time or another to be less relevant because of aging. After years of working, many of us are either financially independent or have significant buying power. There is no reason we have to accept marketing and advertising that caters to younger demographics or males while diminishing our value by either ignoring us entirely or trying to limit our worth based on our appearance or age. We deserve better, and together we can advocate for it. 

There are amazing, diverse, and phenomenal midlife women running businesses. Seek them out. Support them by purchasing from them. Let’s create a social movement for change and show the world what it means to be a midlife woman. 

Fashion is from the inside out. Fashion is a reflection of who we are from the inside out. It should make us feel good about ourselves, which means wearing what makes us happy and confident. 

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Can understanding your Enneagram type help you age well?

Kate Ostrem created her business, 9 Open Doors, to share the wisdom of the Enneagram in a practical, down-to-earth way. She loves helping women better understand themselves and others. We wanted to know if learning more about our Enneagram types could help us on our journey to aging well, so we sat down with her for an interview.

We’ve done a lot of personality tests, from Strength Finders to Myers-Brigg during our careers. Each one teaches us a little more about ourselves and gives us a way to think about who we are and why we do what we do. We both are learners, so we find the insights fascinating.

Over the last few years, we’ve noticed more and more people referring to themselves as numbers—one through nine. It definitely sparked our curiosity enough that we both took a free online Enneagram assessment. However, knowing our number, or personality, hasn’t been enough. We wanted a deeper dive into interpreting what our number reveals about our personality and how to use this knowledge to live better. 

We sought out Enneagram Expert and Educator, Kate Ostrem, for an interview. Kate is certified with Anne Mureé and has studied with some of the most prominent thought leaders in the Enneagram community, including Ginger Lapid-Bogda, Russ Hudson, Helen Palmer, Jerry Wagner, and Beatrice Chestnut. She has been an Associate Member of the Enneagram in Business Network and is a former board member of the Minnesota Chapter of the International Enneagram Association.

Kate created her business, 9 Open Doors, to share the wisdom of the Enneagram in a practical, down-to-earth way. She loves helping her clients better understand themselves and others. From a conference in New Zealand to teams in corporate environments to a few close friends in a backyard and everything in between, she teaches the Enneagram in a meaningful way for every audience.

What is the Enneagram? 

The Enneagram is a fascinating, centuries-old personality tool that depicts nine different types to explain the motivation behind how we think, feel, and act. 

Why is knowing your type important? 

Our type has many advantages, but it can also limit us. Once we identify our type, we begin to recognize our patterns and can cultivate the ability to make intentional, conscious choices instead of acting from a place of immediate habit. 

How does knowing your Enneagram type help you better understand your personality tendencies? 

Understanding your type allows you to access a deeper part of who you are. Our type is the result of deeply ingrained patterns which go back decades - recognizing it can lead to the realization that we have other options accessible to us. But first, we need to understand our automatic tendencies and what's behind them. 

How can we use this knowledge to be more intentional about our lives as we age? 

I believe that self-awareness is the key to aging well. The Enneagram frees you from a rigid definition of who you are and what you are capable of and opens your eyes to living fully from a place of wholeness.

Can knowing our Enneagram type help us get along with others better? 

Yes, understanding that we are all operating through our type can help us take things less personally. It can also allow us to make adjustments to our own reactions and responses, which can positively impact our interactions with the people around us.

Can I change my type? 

While our type remains the same all of our lives, what we can do is loosen how tight a hold it has on us.

What can we expect to learn at the Enneagram workshop on October 4? 

For many people, discovering your type is a process that can take a long time. My hope is that our time together on October 4th will spark your curiosity, give you some insight into who you are, and point you in the right direction of learning how your type impacts you on a daily basis. I'm looking forward to it!

Do you want to learn more about your type and how to use it to your advantage? Register for Rumblings’ Enneagram workshop here. 

Best Ways to Support Friends and Family During a Crisis

During a crisis, you can show support in multiple ways to someone you care about. It’s not what you do, it’s that you step forward and reach out.

August 19, 2020, changed our family forever. My (Rebecca) husband had a massive stroke. I shared the details in a previous post, so I won’t go into the story again here, but as my four kids and I moved through the first anniversary, we reflected on what helped us feel supported during the last year. 

The reality is after 50, we’re at an age when sickness, health events, accidents, or death happen to people we care about and love. As I’ve gotten older, seeing people I care about in crisis has happened to too many people, too often. It has felt a bit overwhelming at times. 

Our family was lucky. My husband recovered well. And, we’ve felt tremendous amounts of love during a very challenging year. 

I have to admit before I went through this experience, I often wondered if I was saying or doing the “right” thing for someone going through a trying time. In hindsight, I often let this discomfort prevent me from doing enough to show I cared.  

Experience is our teacher. 

After reflection, I thought these ideas could be helpful if you’re wondering what to do when someone you care about needs similar support. 

Send a text or email without an expectation for a response. As I was sitting in the hospital for three weeks with my husband, I loved getting little notes of support from colleagues, friends, and family, just to say ‘I heard. I am thinking about you. Don’t feel obligated to respond.’ I was often happy to respond, but knowing there was no expectation to helped, a lot. 

Drop off a plant or flowers.  After eight to 10 hours at the hospital, I loved coming home to a house full of flowers and plants. It felt like a big hug after a long stressful day. Even a year later, I see the plants around our house and feel the support from our friends and family. 

Prepare a meal. Knowing my kids were well fed was a huge relief. The love radiated from the meals and food dropped at our home. It was especially helpful to have healthful foods that could be frozen and were easy to reheat. My neighbor organized a meal train for a month. At the time, I didn’t realize we’d need it that long, but we did, and we appreciated every meal. 

Gift a meal. Gift cards may feel impersonal, but I can’t express how thankful we were to receive them at this time. My son’s friend group dropped off a stack from various local restaurants that the kids frequented together. When I was stuck at the hospital longer than expected, these gifts allowed my kids to fend for themselves. My out-of-town relatives found a local meal delivery service, and when I had time to cook again (I love to cook), it was nice to jump online, place an order, and have all the ingredients delivered to our door. 

Ask first before sharing ‘your’ story. I think it’s easy to want to connect with what someone else is going through by sharing your story. It says you understand and have been through something similar. However, I realized quickly that when you’re in a crisis, you can’t appreciate the connection, and it feels like you’re diminishing what the person is going through. Instead, what helped my kids and me was hearing, ‘I went through something similar with X. If it would help to talk about it, I am happy to share my experience when the time is right for you.

Recognize the caregiver(s). It’s essential to think about the person going through the event, but it made a huge impact to have someone ask, “How are you?” I am fortunate to be involved in a caregivers’ support group. I recognize I am one of the lucky spouses. My husband is doing well. However, many caregivers are struggling. The life they knew does not exist. They’re feeling profoundly disconnected. They feel alone and unrecognized. Reach out. 

Stay connected. Health events can change people. As a result, relationships may change.  The ways you interacted with the person previously may need to evolve based on the health of your friend or family member. It’s often easier to avoid or pull away than adjust. Change is hard. Our family appreciates our friends who have stayed and included us in dinners, gatherings, golf outings, and walks through a tough year.

Offer to do a simple task. Everyday tasks that friends offered to do (or just did) like walking the dogs, hiring out yard work, making a Target run, grocery shopping, or covering mandatory school volunteer requirements were very helpful. We didn’t always say yes and take advantage of the offer, but we felt supported by the thought during a stressful time. 

Don’t hesitate, just ask. I know people are often uncomfortable approaching someone going through a crisis. My advice is to reach out. I appreciated anyone and everyone talking to us and asking how we were doing. It felt more awkward when people turned away because they didn’t know what to say, didn’t feel comfortable approaching us, or thought we didn’t want to discuss the challenges we were facing. 

What feels supportive differs for all of us, but the point here is to do something. Whatever it is will be appreciated. 

You can make a difference to someone you care about. It’s not what you do, it’s that you step forward and reach out. 

Surround people with support during challenging times.

Together we Rumble in good times and bad!  

Seven Great Tips for Finding the Courage to Change During Midlife

‘Courage and daring are coursing through your veins. You were made to live and love with your whole heart. It’s time to show up and be seen. That’s midlife.’ Brene’ Brown

Midlife is full of change. We experience transitions ranging from kids graduating and starting on their own, caring for aging parents, health issues of our own, becoming grandparents, changing marital status, household moves, and career moves. Not to mention the changes that are happening with our bodies! Some of the changes are wonderful. Others are very messy and complicated. The only constant is the change itself. 

One of the many things the two of us have in common is our strong desire to embrace change. You might even say we intentionally seek it out. As we prepare for a significant announcement for Rumblings representing a giant leap outside our comfort zone, even for us (check our social media and website for more information coming soon), we started thinking about how we approach change. 

The focus of our careers has been helping people navigate through behavior change. We’ve helped individuals change their health behaviors, assisted populations create a culture of wellness, and worked with large companies to transform their approach to improving the health of the people they serve. 

Personally, each of us has always embraced change. Sometimes, we’ve purposefully sought out change, even when life events weren’t requiring it of us. 

How do you move through change in a way that is healthy and develops resiliency? These are a few of the guideposts that we’ve used to help ourselves and others navigate change. 

• Learning to navigate through change is a skill. One of the best ways to build skills is through experience. You’ve been through change before and survived every single time. These skills you’ve developed help you become resilient in the face of change.

• Try to let go of what people think and realize perfectionism is not healthy striving. When you slip, make mistakes, and even fail, give yourself grace. Be mindful of your self-talk by respecting yourself as you would speak to others about making mistakes. It is hard for everyone to show this level of self-love. We tend to live in a world framed by the words “I’m supposed to do this” or “I need to do that” before everything is good in life.

• Spend time reflecting on what is truly important to you. The place to start is for each of us to spend time with ourselves in stillness, whether in nature, walking, reading, yoga, or meditation, to let our inner awareness reveal the things that no longer serve us. Being still, or time relaxing, helps cultivate creativity, reduces stress, and prevents burnout during times of change. 

• Cultivate a learning mindset. A learning mindset might include resetting your mindset to focus on the pleasure you experience from new things you are learning versus what you cannot do right now. It can be challenging to do this while in the middle of change, but it will help you discover the joy of so many new experiences in your life. It could be as simple as identifying what you are grateful for in the new day before your feet touch the floor in the morning. 

• Develop a support system. These are the connections and your community that will stand by you in times of need. They won’t try to fix your problems, try to change you, or minimize what you are going through. Instead, they are the ones in your life that will listen, provide a word of encouragement, a hug, and a reality check that you are not alone. Then, reach out to these people when you’re in need!

• Minimize mindless and numbing behaviors. During times of significant change, we need a temporary respite. Are the activities you’re choosing while taking a break an escape or numbing behaviors? What actions can you select to contribute to your ability to manage through change? Be mindful to choose the activities enhancing your creativity rather than diminishing your mental and physical health. It’s challenging to think about flourishing during times of change, but you can focus on replenishing your spirit. 

• Remember to breathe. Change can be overwhelming, even for those of us who intentionally seek it out. When you start to border on panic, fear, stress, or paralysis, take a few deep breaths and remind yourself that you’ve experienced massive change before and made it through in one piece - although perhaps altered mentally or physically. You have what it takes to survive, and you are not alone. 

The reset mindset that change is something to embrace rather than dread may be one of the most important learnings of midlife. The challenges we experience in midlife don’t go away. It’s part of life. The difference comes from understanding that we can no longer carry both the pretend facade we’ve built for the outside world and embrace showing up and giving our true gifts. 

Time is growing short. We have unfulfilled dreams to live and things about ourselves to explore still. Resisting inevitable change prevents us from growing into a life that may be messy and inconvenient but also full of adventure and whole-hearted living. 

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Reduce Stress and Improve Happiness: 14 Great Books to Read This Summer

One of the most inspiring perks of being partners in Rumblings is sharing what we’re reading with each other. Our text message chain is a volley of must-read recommendations. Often our business meeting conversations get distracted by sharing inspiration we’re having based on a book we’ve read. 

There is still something magical and simple about a book. The power to evoke an emotion, inspire action, ignite creativity, showcase diverse views, motivate change, and transport us to a different place and time through written language is a great gift. 

As lifelong learners, we both have been avid readers. Still, this past year has brought diversity in our reading and added fiction back into a routine that has previously prioritized nonfiction, professional books. What’s interesting — and maybe a little counterintuitive — is that reading fiction can contribute to overall well-being. 

Reading fiction is uniquely powerful in helping us imagine stories that activate regions of our brains responsible for better understanding others and seeing the world from a new perspective. Studies have shown that reading fiction can help us:

• Develop our imagination

• Build skills to be alone

• Be more empathetic

• Reduce stress (reading puts our brains in a similar state to meditation, eliciting the benefits of deep relaxation and inner calm)

• Experience slower memory loss and mental decline

• Develop a broader vocabulary

• Makes us happier

Although we've expanded our library to include digital and even audiobooks, evidence suggests that reading on paper increases comprehension and helps induce sleep due to being visually less demanding and less distracting, and lacking light-emitting screens. 

Health benefits aside, our biggest challenge is getting through our extensive list of “to-read” books. 

Whichever preference you have for reading, we thought we’d share what’s on our summer reading list. 

90 Seconds to a Life You Love: How to Master Your Difficult Feelings to Cultivate Lasting Confidence, Resilience, and Authenticity by Joan I. Rosenberg

All the Devils are Here by Lisa Penny 

Before We Were Yours by Lisa Wingate 

Cleaning Up Your Mental Mess: 5 Simple, Scientifically Proven Steps to Reduce Anxiety, Stress, and Toxic Thinking by Dr. Caroline Leaf

Finding Freedom: A Cook’s Story Remaking A Life From Scratch by Erin French

How the Word is Passed: A Reckoning with the History of Slavery Across America by Clint Smith 

Somebody’s Daughter by Ashley C. Ford 

Ten Poems series by Roger Housden 

The Monkeewrench series by P.J. Tracy

The Alice Network by Kate Quinn

The Gift: 12 Lessons to Save Your Life by Edith Eger

Think Again by Adam Grant

Universal Human by Gary Zukav

Where the Crawdads Sing by Delia Owens

What’s on your summer reading list? We’d love to hear what books are inspiring you and what you’re learning. Please share with us at  Rumblings Media or via social media with the hashtag #flourishafter50. 

Please support your local library or small independent bookstores whenever possible. 

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